I’ve been wondering if I’m doing you a disservice by talking about looking for happiness in order to create your Kick-Ass Life.

I talk about the importance of feeling good in your life a lot, and this makes me wonder if I am doing a good enough job showing that in order to feel good in your life, you have to be willing to feel bad too.

The last thing I want to do is become another one of those air-fairy, woo-woo types that make it seem like all you have to do is think about the things that you want, and put a few picture up and everything you desire will instantly appear. There is so much more to it than staying positive and thinking happy thoughts.

In order to change your life you must  be willing to do some things that feel really uncomfortable at first- like stepping outside your comfort zone, dealing with a lot of uncertainty, facing your fears, and making mistakes.

You need to be willing to feel the discomfort of stretching yourself and expanding beyond where you have been before.

The scariest thing that you will do is to stand in the place of taking 100% responsibility for your outcome. It all comes down to you and your choices.

Transforming your life takes courage and a bit of a bad-ass attitude doesn’t hurt. It’s all about you deciding that you’re not going to settle for an unsatisfying life, and that you are willing to do the work to change things.

In the end it is always worth it. And it’s not like you have to go it alone. There are plenty of people out there who are willing to help you….like me for instance.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m still going to talk about feeling good and being happy, but I think I’m going spend a little more time talking about the challenging aspects of the process and how you can make it more manageable.