I am still thinking about this week’s Defy the Box Radio Show. I had a great conversation with Dave Rendall about his manifesto called:


The Freak Factor : Discovering Uniqueness by Flaunting Weakness. ( Download it and read it!)

When I first read this I was very impressed. It resonated with the core message behind Defy the Box.

Let your Freak Flag Fly in order to enjoy great meaning and success.

I can’t stress this point enough…… It’s OK to be different, and there is nothing wrong with you.

It’s time to stop making yourself wrong and trying to stuff yourself into the “Box” that society is trying to cram you into. It is a waste of your time and energy, and it just doesn’t feel very good.  You would be better served by embracing these “problems” that other folks think you have and finding an environment that supports them.

I can’t stress how important it is to create the right environment and find the right people to surround you. You are not necessarily born into it. Sometimes you need to go out and create it. I think that accepting yourself helps a lot with this. The way you feel about yourself and what makes you different directly affects who and what you attract in to your experience.

For example, when I had Kali from the Kink Academy on DTB radio, we talked about authentic sexuality and the importance of accepting and feeling good about your desires. If you feel that your kinky desires are bad, then you tend to attract a person into your experience who feels that you are bad for wanting those things…..which in turn feeds your feelings of being bad.  When you embrace your desires and feel good about them, you will attract people in to your experience who are down with them too, and you can enjoy some fun and feel good about it.

Is there anything about you that you are tired of trying to fix?

What would happen if you embraced  it ?

You can listen you the Freak Factor episode here: