Caught in The Tangled Web of Conformity
ByI’ve been pretty quiet lately. I’ve been all tangled up in a sticky web of “should” and “have too” concerning how I’m supposed to do things in my coaching biz. It had me feeling totally stressed out, frustrated, and it was draining me of all my creative energy.
The worst part was that being caught in this web was also draining me of my excitement around the awesome new guidebook and discovery group that I am putting together. I’m totally passionate about what I have created, but trying to promote it in this pre-packaged way was making me very unhappy.
Luckily, some folks I’m in a mastermind group with called me out on my shit and said- “Leah, you are all about defying the box, promote this thing any way you want to! Why are you even trying to conform?”
That is a good freaking question!
Why am I caught up in this story that says I have to write up my sales copy in a specific way and put it out in the world in this pre-package format?
When I sit with this question I realize that sometimes I feel vulnerable and too attached to the results when I’m offering my coaching services. What I’m offering the world is a little piece of my soul and that can feel very scary! What if no-body wants it?? When I’m in this place, it’s easy to feel like I don’t know what I’m doing and look to other people for advice rather than tuning into what feels right to me. I buy into the idea that I need to do things a specific way to be successful.
What parts of your life do you find yourself thinking that you need to conform to a specific way of doing things?
All I can say is that I’m glad that I’ve come through on the other side!
In the next few weeks I’ll be rolling out my new Discovery group and awesome Guidebook in a way that feels kick-ass to me and I can’t wait to share it with you!
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4 Comments
August 16th, 2011 at 4:10 pm
Hey Leah-
It’s so crazy getting all caught up in what we think we SHOULD do mode- For me, I remind myself to check in with myself when I’m using that word and most often I find that the word SHOULD never feels good.
I’m glad you’re on the other side of it though!
Thanks for sharing that.
August 17th, 2011 at 8:45 am
I totally understand. I have been struggling with similar things in getting together my new product. It was weird. I’m all about doing things in ways that work for you. I had to ask myself WTF are you doing? It is leading to a entire rework of a product/service.
I’m not like other coaches out there and I shouldn’t have to act like them or do things in the same way, if it doesn’t work for me.
I’m glad you remembered that too.
August 17th, 2011 at 9:27 am
I love it Beth- Should never feels good!
August 17th, 2011 at 9:38 am
HI Delisa- thanks for your comments!
I think all of us need to remember that there is no right way to do things, and it’s important to determine what feels good to each of us.
The question that I like to ponder is what is driving us to think that we need to do things in a certain way…….once you identify that for yourself the easier it is to get what you need and do things your own way!