The Problem with Protecting Yourself From Your Desires
ByWhat do you want in your life and business?
The most common answer I hear to this question is “I don’t know”.
I think you do know, but you’re afraid to claim it because you don’t think you can really have it.
And that is the problem.
You don’t believe you can have what you want, so you don’t give yourself permission to go for it.
You protect yourself from your “unreasonable” desires by ignoring them. You only allow yourself to want the things you think you can have.
You think small and play small.
Guess what happens when you think and play small?
You ignore your desire to travel the world doing boudoir photo shoots and settle for taking pictures of kids and weddings because it seems doable and you really need the money. You end up frustrated and uninspired which negatively impacts your profits.
Or
You stay in the unsatisfying relationship because it’s better than the other’s that you have had, and you settle for a partner who doesn’t give you the love and affection that you desire. You crave affection and touch, and begin to feel undesirable. You end up wondering how you ended up this way.
Want to know how to change it?
Recognize that the only thing stopping you from having everything you desire is your story saying you can’t have it.
This story prevents you from dreaming and playing big! It makes you settle for an unsatisfying relationship, sucky job, and keeps you from expanding into your greatness.
We are here to expand, grow and be inspired.
Stop reigning yourself in and ignoring your desires. If you feel a strong desire that keeps coming back, it is meant for you! Give yourself permission to go for it!! The Universe is on your side and will show you the way if you let it.
The challenge is to identify where your stories about what is possible are holding you back. It’s hard to see these stories because you’re too close to them and they are wound deep into your belief system. You often need an outside perspective to see them clearly.
Here are so examples of the changes that can happen when you change up your story-
“You mean all I have to do is stop lying to myself?” is what an amazing women who hired me to help her improve her social life said. With-in one week of discovering the crappy old story that prevented her from having the relationships that she wanted, she was filling up her social calendar with fun new connections.
It can be that easy!
Another client let go of the stories that prevented her from going for her dream of being a documentary film maker, and someone else stopped playing it small and went on to create a life changing women’s event.
I can help you say “yes” to your desires and allow them in. You will be going for your dream job, expanding into your greatness, and tapping into all the juicy goodness that the world has to offer you.
Is this something that you can use? If your answer is “hell Yhea” send me an email and lets talk.
19 Comments
May 16th, 2025 at 10:28 am
Leah, as usual, I love this. I love how once we recognize how our stories are holding us back, everything can change in the blink of an eye. You rock, lady! xoxo
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May 16th, 2025 at 10:50 am
Leah..totally agree with the part about when we feel specific desires coming up again and again.. those whisperings urging us to pay attention.. then it’s time.. absolutely. That’s how our guidance comes in.. it’s not loud and dramatic, but if we’re paying even a little bit of attention we know which way we are meant to go.
Love what you’re up to.
love to you
Lisa
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May 16th, 2025 at 1:40 pm
I love this, Leah. I’ve been kinda obsessed with playing big recently. I realized it doesn’t serve anybody if I play small. And, like Nona said, adore the concept that I can change my story at any time just by choosing to do so. Love to you, angel. xo
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May 16th, 2025 at 1:46 pm
Ah Leah,
As always you are so on target. I was just reading for a client this morning and talking about this very thing-I told her to start asking herself the following question when she had a negative or limiting thought: “is this true for me at this moment?” I find that a really helpful exercise when trying to discern how we limit ourselves and tamp out our shining light!
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May 16th, 2025 at 3:03 pm
Great post, Leah! I love that you are the catalyst for the changes these women are making – that you are helping them change their story and play in the fullness of their dreams. Well done!
Hugs and butterflies,
~Teresa~
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May 16th, 2025 at 4:32 pm
Stories, stories, stories. I’ve got a million of ‘em. And, they are mostly not helpful at least if I want to continue growing. Thanks for all the work you do helping us say ‘yes’ and let go.
Patty Tanji´s last [type] ..A Gymnast’s Dream
May 16th, 2025 at 5:12 pm
Very inspirational article! Especially, “…If you feel a strong desire that keeps coming back, it is meant for you! Give yourself permission to go for it!! The Universe is on your side and will show you the way if you let it.”
Sometimes, only our disbelief in our ability to succeed stays in the way to greatness.
Thanks, Leah, for reminding to play big!
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May 16th, 2025 at 7:29 pm
HI Patty!
I invite you to re-frame this a bit and consider that your stories are very helpful to us as you continue growing. Once you learn to recognize that you have them, they tell you all kinds of stuff about yourself.
Thanks for commenting.
May 16th, 2025 at 7:30 pm
Thanks Teresa!
May 16th, 2025 at 7:31 pm
That is a great exercise Bri!
Self inquiry is so helpful. I also like “The Work” by Byron Katie!
May 16th, 2025 at 7:38 pm
Go Big Niki!!!!
You totally can choose to change your story- but I’m not going to pretend that it is always that easy to do. These stories run deep and are anchored in with all kinds of energy and emotions. I think it really comes down to being willing to clean up the energy that goes with the story. You have to re-write the story to support you and reflect what you want to happen.
May 16th, 2025 at 7:38 pm
Love your insight into this Lisa.
May 16th, 2025 at 7:39 pm
It can be pure magic Nona!
May 17th, 2025 at 6:42 am
I think it is so helpful for people to realize they can rewrite the stories they tell themselves. Some of the work I do with my clients involves the use of affirmations. When used properly, they can be very effective. Our beliefs and habits can be rewired, and in doing so we can let go of so much baggage that isn’t serving us well at all.
Great piece!
Dana Lisa Young´s last [type] ..Dinner table spirituality
May 17th, 2025 at 8:04 am
HI Dana!
Thanks for your comment.
I find affirmations are helpful only if you can believe them. I find that I often have to help clients work their way up to the believing the possibility that they can have what they want.I call it collecting evidence.Some people need baby steps and some folks are ready to leap right in.
The interesting about beliefs is that they are just thought that we make true. It could be an expereince that anchors it in, maybe it is something you heard over and over again from your family or society, or you say it to yourself so often it becomes the lens you perceive everything else through. Luckily beliefs and habits are one of the few things that we can control and change with some attention and focus, and affirmations often help with that.
Rock on!
Leah
May 17th, 2025 at 12:18 pm
Love this post Leah! I know that there have been times in my past when I didn’t even realize that I was telling myself a story. Taking a step back and realizing that YOU are the only thing holding you back can be powerful indeed!
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May 18th, 2025 at 9:44 am
Oh Leah! I so needed to read this! I have had the worst 4 weeks of my entire life (I mean that…. like serious CRAPOLA) and have sort of lost my way and desires. I know I can do whatever I want, and I realize I keep holding myself back. I don’t know why, but I do. I want to play big and be famous damnit!!!
May 18th, 2025 at 9:57 am
Yep. I agree. I think we DO know what we want! Afraid of getting our “hopes” up… and yet, without them??? I don’t even want to imagine it! Thanks for a great post!
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May 19th, 2025 at 5:12 am
I love how you open people up to themselves, Leah. For me, this post reminded me of how many dreams I’ve totally ignored or pushed down because I thought they were “unrealistic” or “unproductive”. It’s only been in the last year or so — with help from you and a few inspiring others — that I’ve even recognized these impulses as dreams that are ACTIONABLE and WORTHY OF ATTENTION. So now, there’s no stopping me…..
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