The Realization that Changed Everything
ByThis was a big turning point for me……….
I was feeling stuck, worried about money and frustrated that my lover wouldn’t commit to living together. I was feeling stagnant and cranky about it so I got on the phone with my favorite coach of all time and proceeded to tell him that there were a few areas of my life that weren’t feeling that great to me. I wasn’t making enough money in my business and my lover didn’t want the same things from our relationship as I did. Everything was OK besides that.
“As long as I don’t think about these things I’m good, but then something happens and I get lost in feeling bad about my lover not wanting to live together and how I’m just scraping by each month and I get stressed out and start feeling bad”
“I just need some wiggle room! I don’t want to feel like I’m settling.”
His response knocked the wind out of me for a minute.
“You don’t believe you can have it”
There was a long silence on my end as I let those words settle in. Then I realized that it was true! On some level I didn’t truly believe that I could have the relationship, business, money, and life that I truly wanted.
I wasn’t allowing myself to dream big and look for other solutions that would open up the way for everything that I wanted because I was protecting myself from my desires. I was thinking small and playing small and willing to settle for “wiggle room” rather than going big and opening up the way for something magnificent to come in.
That conversation changed everything for me.
I started noticing all the places I was aiming small and settling because I doubted I could have what I wanted. I gave myself permission to dream big and get specific about what I desired in my life. And my life changed drastically for the better. I ditched my old boyfriend and found myself someone who wanted the same things that I did. I changed the way I was doing business and made more money. I upped my game and expanded into the luscious life I wanted to live.
Now my life is full of all kinds of juicy goodness and I’m passionate about helping you create the same thing too!
It breaks my heart when I talk to women who are settling for unsatisfying lives. They’re bored, frustrated and uninspired about some aspect of their work, relationships, or life and find themselves settling for whatever everyone else is having, and afraid to ask for what they really want.
When I ask them what they want their response is-“I don’t know”.
Every time I hear this, it activates the coach in me. Once we dig in it becomes apparent that they do know what they want- they’re just afraid to claim it!!
I know that life is full of juicy goodness and I want YOU to give yourself permission to claim it!
That is why I have teamed up with my dear friend Kelle Sparta to create an exciting new class starting in July called Unleash Yourself! 30 Days to Luscious Freedom. This class will have you shouting “ I Love My Life” from the roof tops! There is room for 30 Luscious Ladies to join us on this fun and transformational adventure (sorry guys).
If you are tired of settling and are ready to start living a luscious life of your own – email me and I will fill you in on the class details. Don’t delay if you want to get in on the crazy good early bird pricing that ends June 10th.
I’d love to have you join us!!
11 Comments
June 6th, 2025 at 10:10 am
Leah – this is awesome!! I totally agree that, “I don’t think I can have it.” and I don’t know what I want is at the heart of so much of our unhappiness! Love this offer and I love what you do!!
xoxo.nona
Nona Jordan | the Business Yogini´s last [type] ..Playing with Money Energy
June 6th, 2025 at 10:12 am
What a powerful experience! Protecting ourselves from life is never the way to find our true awesomeness. Dreaming big is one of those things that we lose so quickly as we grow up. Giving ourselves permission to dream again can be scary but oh so liberating! Thanks for this post – it has reminded me there are probably a few things I need to dream bigger on right now too!
Rebecca Macfarlane´s last [type] ..Phases of Change – Phase 2: Realization
June 6th, 2025 at 11:08 am
Leah, I’m so excited to run this program with you! I’ve had the challenge that I’ve been the big dreamer my entire life. So much so that it sometimes has scared my friends, but it’s served me well, enabling me to get a book deal without even submitting a proposal, become a columnist for a major magazine just because I dreamed big and asked, and so much more that I can’t even list it all. Opening up to the possibilities is such an amazing thing to do! I can’t wait to share these secrets with the 30 lucky women!
June 6th, 2025 at 11:26 am
So glad that you decided that you can have it! And thank you for bringing this to the women who need it. Dreaming big is so full of power and wonder we all need to do it.
Hugs and butterflies,
~Teresa~
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June 6th, 2025 at 11:44 am
Leah – your experience and reflection reminds me of one of my favorite all time poems by Marianne Williamson: Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, Our deepest fear is that we are all powerful beyond measure, ,,, Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you…
Thanks!
June 6th, 2025 at 2:44 pm
Leah, this post really spoke to me. I have some work to do on myself. I tend to settle in one life area, saying, “Oh, well, I have a great marriage, great health, and musical ability, so it’s okay if x, y, or z don’t come into my life.” Ouch…that is not good for me. I need to start thinking bigger and allow myself to have it good in all life areas. This was one of the things I worked on with you as well in coaching…hee! Time to do some more work. Thanks for always making me think! xoxo
Lisa´s last [type] ..Hello World, I’m Your Wild Girl!
June 6th, 2025 at 5:16 pm
Very inspiring! Thanks for sharing your experience. The theme of settling or not living big enters my life frequently. Not asking for enough money, giving my time and talent away for free. My relationships are rock solid and from there I will build my empire. So glad everything was turned around for you. I wish you well screaming your story from the rooftops for everyone to hear. Blessings, Patty
Patty Tanji´s last [type] ..Reclaim Your Money Genius
June 6th, 2025 at 9:47 pm
Wow. Just reading that realization hit me in the gut. How many of us settle for the “wiggle room” instead of the screaming from the mountains “I deserve this!” kind of self-love that wiggles our toesies?
Even the very word “settling” causes all sorts of unpleasant connotations. Which is why I’m trying to eliminate it from my vocabulary altogether. There is nothing worse than feeling stagnant… but beyond that stagnation is the moment where you release and break free.
Awesome post!
Hilary Parry | Tarot by Hilary´s last [type] ..Mentorship Wrap-Up (aka the Tarot Apprentice Rises)
June 7th, 2025 at 9:05 pm
It takes so much courage to be vulnerable. Kudos to you for sharing this important learning with the world. May you be blessed in like kind for this alone.
Why is it we just aim so small? Breaking that which is embedded within us like that does indeed take courage, which you’ve shown us, and it takes awareness, like you’ve shown us too. Then it takes action….which you’ve shown us. You are a great example! Thank you.
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June 8th, 2025 at 2:54 pm
Self-sabotage is a nasty little bugger – especially when it’s unconscious! Like you, I try to pay very close attention to my inner dialogue…especially phrases like “I can’t have that” or “I can’t do that”. Those are usually the keys to where I’m playing small.
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June 9th, 2025 at 3:18 pm
Leah, this really struck a chord with me. I had a moment recently — an entire half-day with NOTHING to do. No kids. No husband. No commitments — just completely open time with no obligations or plans. I COULD NOT FIGURE OUT WHAT TO DO WITH MYSELF. How odd is that? All week, I can think of a million things I’d do with a few hours to myself, but when I got them, I settled and aimed small, as you were saying. Your post has me now dedicated to noticing what I truly enjoy and want to do with my time. xoxo (Hmmm — imagine what the class could do for me!!)
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