The Truth About Naysayers
By“I want to work for myself so I can travel and do my own thing!”
“Are you serious? What about health insurance?”
Or
“I can’t stand this freaking job; it’s sucking me dry! I want to quit and work for myself!”
“Are you crazy? In this economy you’re lucky to have a job!”
Sound familiar?
Want to know why the people around you turn into naysayers every time you come up with a brilliant idea for breaking free of your pre-packaged life?
I assure you it’s not because you’re ideas are crazy and you shouldn’t do it.
The problem is that you’re talking to the wrong people!
Remember- you’re one of those rare individuals who are driven be the desire for freedom!
The naysayers are driven by a desire for security. They mean well and their comments are coming from a place of love and concern, BUT your ideas are always going to sound crazy and risky to them. They can’t help it; it’s just how they’re wired.
Just like YOU can’t help wanting to break free and have the freedom to do what you want to do.
It’s all good. No one is wrong in this scenario, BUT what do you do about it?
Find other freedom seekers to co-conspire and share your dreams of freedom with.
If you are really serious about making those dreams a reality; bring in the big guns and hire a life coach.
What would change for you if you got a big “Hell Yhea” when you shared your dreams?
What would be possible if you got the support you needed to bring your dreams to life?
I’m picturing lots of Kick-Ass-Ness!
I’m here to help you create the freedom that you seek. I’ve created lots of juicy freedom in my life and helped hundreds of other people do the same.
If you’re ready to rock, let’s talk! Email me here to start the conversation.
12 Comments
May 2nd, 2025 at 10:51 am
“The naysayers are driven be a desire for security. They mean well and their comments are coming from a place of love and concern, BUT your ideas are always going to sound crazy and risky to them”
This is a big insight, Leah. Just because other people are driven by different core needs doesn’t mean that either they are crazy or you are crazy. But it *does* mean that recognizing the clash of values is important, because it will allow you disentangle your dreams from their critiques without feeling like something’s wrong with either you or them.
Being able to listen, understand, respect and STILL move forward is such an important skill in building your way through the world—and one that no one can do alone, without the support of like-minded people.
May 2nd, 2025 at 11:34 am
It’s such a beautiful thing to find other people who share our values….and it’s still important to have a few voices of people we respect and love who have different values. We can learn from them, too. And some of them might even be cheering us on without us knowing it. Whatever you are doing, learn to recognize which values are important to you and live them. Always.
And go forth and kick-ass.
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May 2nd, 2025 at 11:45 am
Leah.
Amen. Amen. and AMEN to surrounding yourself with people who say YES to your dreams. This last weekend I got a massage from a woman who was telling me that she JUST moved out of a homeless shelter into her OWN HOME. She was going to school to become a massage therapist and lost her job and ended up homeless. She KEPT going to school while living in the shelter and now she works in this beautiful spa and she just opened her own business in her home town AND bought a house and she said, “People said I couldn’t do it, told me to go work at Walmart… But here I am. Now who is laughing all the way to the bank??”
Even if people say you can’t, I say fuck them. Do it.
Nona Jordan | the Business Yogini´s last [type] ..Playing with Money Energy
May 2nd, 2025 at 12:39 pm
Oh I love this view – that they just have different priorities. I’ve seen a lot of suggested reasons why nasayers nay-say – but I think this might be one of my favorites. So simple, no maliciousness, just “we have different motivations”. Totally going to bookmark this post & save it for my next naysayer encounter
PS: LOVE Nona’s story too!
Michelle´s last [type] ..On Baba Yaga, nice girl syndrome, & not self-editing
May 2nd, 2025 at 2:24 pm
There is no way to overestimate the amazing things that can happen when you’re supported by like minds. Hearing that “hell yeah!” can be a big, BIG deal — especially when you’re out on your own. The world is so lucky that you’re there to offer it, Leah!
Jessica´s last [type] ..5 Yoga Myths, Shattered
May 2nd, 2025 at 6:02 pm
Oh hell yes Leah! Support groups–your people are so essential to any worthwhile endeavor. They can inspire and motivate you when you are feeling more sucky and they will be there applauding and passing the champagne when you rock it to your full potential!
Bri Saussy´s last [type] ..Make Prayer a Priority
May 3rd, 2025 at 2:26 pm
Great point.. and true. There is a lot of terror around freedom. And we all know that misery loves company.. as does fear, and keeping things small, and playing by the rules..It’s true that we won’t often get lots of support for the big brave moves we dream of making.. and sometimes it’s better that we let them incubate quietly so they can take root and get some momentum going before anyone can come in and throw energy all over them. I agree that having a cheering squad is wonderful.. and also believe in protecting our tiny seeds of new ideas and letting them take root for a bit.. being careful about sharing them until it’s time.
Love all this Leah..
xox
Lisa
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May 3rd, 2025 at 7:00 pm
Love your sassy style. I was one of those gals who broke free and my favorite one was… “Are you serious what about health insurance?” What the heck do they think people did in the olden days before health insurance came along?!? My husband said that when I told him to quit his job and I responded with… “Yeah, you better stay. You’re gonna need that health insurance cuz that job is killin’ ya just a little bit every day, but thank goodness we have health insurance!” God finally stepped in and he broke his neck and they fired him. Blessing in disguise.
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May 3rd, 2025 at 8:23 pm
I have really had to start distancing myself from the nay sayers in my life. People that don’t “get” me and don’t believe in me. I have shifted my friend circles to surround myself with like minded people who support and encourage me!!
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May 4th, 2025 at 5:52 am
So true, Leah, so true. I’ve noticed that naysayers are not supportive because they might envy you for courage dream big and take actions. They would love to do the same but they are afraid.
You right that people who think that you are crazy pursuing your dreams are wrong people, at least they are wrong people to share your dreams with. Life coach or mastermind group is the way forward.
Inga Deksne´s last [type] ..I want something new in my life but I don’t like changes
May 5th, 2025 at 10:26 am
They say that people that share the same dreams have hearts that beat as one. For me, it’s very necessary because they benefit from one another, exchanging learning and experiences that will both lead them to success and freedom. I also believe being around optimistic people is a major factor too. Beautiful post Leah. xoxo
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May 22nd, 2025 at 1:47 pm
I still ponder naysayers. From the time I grew up in my hometown, family saying to wait until you have at least a grand. One day I just threw everything in my car and moved to another place with $300 to my name. Two years later I realized I needed a college degree. 7 years later no one would have believed I move again. I once, actually twice had two ex boyfriends at different times tell me I should “just accept the job”. I’m like no, I deserve more, I’m more than just an ordinary job. Last night another naysayer tells me I shouldn’t to move to another country, live abroad within 3 months. they said I think in the box, loved your article, because I truly believe this faux security of life is not living. I want to live and experience. And I will.