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The Problem with Protecting Yourself From Your Desires
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The most common answer I hear to this question is “I don’t know”.
I think you do know, but you’re afraid to claim it because you don’t think you can really have it.
And that is the problem.
You don’t believe you can have what you want, so you don’t give yourself permission to go for it.
You protect yourself from your “unreasonable” desires by ignoring them. You only allow yourself to want the things you think you can have.
You think small and play small.
Guess what happens when you think and play small?
You ignore your desire to travel the world doing boudoir photo shoots and settle for taking pictures of kids and weddings because it seems doable and you really need the money. You end up frustrated and uninspired which negatively impacts your profits.
Or
You stay in the unsatisfying relationship because it’s better than the other’s that you have had, and you settle for a partner who doesn’t give you the love and affection that you desire. You crave affection and touch, and begin to feel undesirable. You end up wondering how you ended up this way.
Want to know how to change it?
Recognize that the only thing stopping you from having everything you desire is your story saying you can’t have it.
This story prevents you from dreaming and playing big! It makes you settle for an unsatisfying relationship, sucky job, and keeps you from expanding into your greatness.
We are here to expand, grow and be inspired.
Stop reigning yourself in and ignoring your desires. If you feel a strong desire that keeps coming back, it is meant for you! Give yourself permission to go for it!! The Universe is on your side and will show you the way if you let it.
The challenge is to identify where your stories about what is possible are holding you back. It’s hard to see these stories because you’re too close to them and they are wound deep into your belief system. You often need an outside perspective to see them clearly.
Here are so examples of the changes that can happen when you change up your story-
“You mean all I have to do is stop lying to myself?” is what an amazing women who hired me to help her improve her social life said. With-in one week of discovering the crappy old story that prevented her from having the relationships that she wanted, she was filling up her social calendar with fun new connections.
It can be that easy!
Another client let go of the stories that prevented her from going for her dream of being a documentary film maker, and someone else stopped playing it small and went on to create a life changing women’s event.
I can help you say “yes” to your desires and allow them in. You will be going for your dream job, expanding into your greatness, and tapping into all the juicy goodness that the world has to offer you.
Is this something that you can use? If your answer is “hell Yhea” send me an email and lets talk.
My Right People
Posted by: | CommentsIf you want to become a freak flag flying, freedom loving, money making machine, you need to clearly identify who your right people are and choose to exclusively work with them.
What do I mean by right people?
Your right people are the ones that you totally LOVE to work with and they love working with you too. You’re on the same wave length and everyone gets exactly what they want and need from the relationship. These are the folks who will be posting how awesome you are on Facebook and telling all their friends to hire you!
Determining who you’re right people are is a lot like deciding who you want to date. It’s important to be choosy and have a clear idea what your standards are and who you are a good fit with. You don’t want to just give it away or settle for whoever comes along.
I see so many business people giving it away and settling for anyone when money gets tight. There’s an air of desperation and they cast a very wide net and offer their services to just about everyone, which never turns out well. You end up working with people that drive you crazy, doing things you don’t enjoy and only getting so-so results.
Just so we’re clear- I’m going to share who my right people are so you know who I exclusively work with.
I work with rebelicious, free-spirited entrepreneurs who buck the system and are determined to make money and have fun doing what they love.
They either already work for themselves or are ready to make the move and need a bit of help fine tuning their vision.
I show them the way to more freedom, fun and money by flying their freak flag high and proud via my writing, tele-classes, and 1-1 coaching sessions.
More Specifically-
My right peeps value their freedom. They need to live life on their own terms and be self-expressed. Hiding who they are and conforming doesn’t work for them. They have (or want) tattoos, piercings, funky hair and rock out their own sense of style.
They are committed to living a kick-ass life, there’s no settling or just getting by. It is essential that they do work they enjoy and get paid well for it. They’ve already wasted enough time doing work they thought they should do to make money and didn’t feel right to them. Now they want to whole package- freedom, fun and money.
My right people are creative. They like to dress up in fun costumes to go to parties, and wear crazy sparkly make-up. They play music, sing and dance when they get together with their friends. Their houses are full of interesting things.
They are born leaders even if they resist that notion some of the time. People look up to them and they make an impression. They aren’t afraid to make bold moves, and express their opinions.
They are spiritual, into the law of attraction and believe that the Universe is conspiring with them to create the life they want. They are positive people and know that their life can be anything that they want it to be, but figuring out what that looks like is often challenging.
They are into healthy cooking, good food and hanging out with friends. You can often find them indulging in hedonistic activates- like drinking good tequila, eating chocolate naked, and hanging out in the hot-tub on a starry night. They’re very sensual and into exploring their sexuality and trying new things.
They enjoy electronic music and used to be part of the rave culture, punk or underground party scene. They did their fair share of ecstasy, acid and other recreational drugs, and still may indulge on a rare occasion, but now you’re more likely to find them enjoying a glass of wine, tequila or some good pot every now and then.
Finally, they are into personal development and making their lives kick-ass by investing in themselves. They take full responsibility for their outcomes. They rarely blame, whine or complain.
If this sounds like you, I’d love to connect!!
Now it’s your turn. Who are your right people?
Viva La Revolution (Part 2)
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As promised, I am back with part 2 of – Viva La Revolution- how to identify your Revolution.
It’s all about showing up fully, differentiating yourself, and giving people a compelling reason to hire you so you can stop settling and make some real money doing what you love.
I left you thinking about your point of view.
In case you forgot- Your point of view is your unique perspective. It’s what you know to be true and feel passionate about. It’s the thing that drives you and the wisdom that you live by. It’s also what makes you special and unique.
It’s important to take the time to identify your point of view and be conscious of it because doing so helps you stay true to you, and sends out a powerful signal that attracts other people who resonate with it into your experience. They will quickly become your friends and allies.
Your Revolution
Once you have your point of view down, it’s time to move onto your Revolution.
Your Revolution springs out of your point of view and is based on what drives you crazy, what you see as missing, and where you constantly want to take action to change things. In most cases, this is what got you into the business that you are in. It’s the WHY and the driving force behind what you do.
Don’t be afraid to claim it!!!
I want to throw out there that your Revolution is about you taking a stand for what you believe in. Don’t be afraid to take a stand for the change you really want to see and raise up your flag. It doesn’t need to be popular or politically correct. It can go against what other people are doing and saying.
Matter of fact…it’s better to be bold! That is what a revolution is all about…shaking things up and saying “This can be different and I’m going to show you how”.
Your revolution is that thing that you can’t stop talking about! It will compel you to write a book and launch a website because you are passionate about it! You want to show other people how to avoid falling into this trap!
Your Revolution is a rallying point for people. They will get behind you and want to be part of it.
My revolution –
My revolution springs from being upset that so many talented musicians, coaches, and healers feel they have to give up their dreams, conform and settle for soul-sucking jobs in order to make money. If they do choose to do what they love, they think they have to conform to the standard way of doing things or settle for not making any money and barely getting by.
It breaks my heart because I know that they CAN make money doing what they love and being themselves; if they would just go for it and believe that it can happen and trust that there are plenty of people out there who will buy what they are offering.
My revolution is: Making money doing what you love while being 100% you in your full freaky glory! No settling or conforming!
I want you to pursue what interests you, do your own thing and own that special something –something that only you can share with the world. The goal is to be excited about what you’re doing and loving what you offer.
Love it! Own it! And fly that freak flag high and proud!
Is this a revolution that you want to be part of?
It’s your turn- What’s your revolution all about?
Remember-your revolution is personal. Think about what your journey in life has been about, what you have to learn and what you feel compelled to share. Who cares if 100 people are already talking about the similar thing! No one can do it like you.
Unfurl your freak flag!
Share what you come up with in the comments below.
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If you need any help figuring out your revolution-sign up for an Unfurl Your Freak Flag Session!
Unfurl Your Freak Flag Sessions are 90 minutes of you and me time on the phone talking about all the ways you can make more money by bringing all of you into your biz. We’ll talk about your revolution, eliminating competition, standing out and shining, and rallying up the folks who are excited about giving you money. When we are done, you will have some clear strategies for unfurling your freak flag and flying it high and proud so you can make some real money!!!
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Viva la Revolution! (Part 1)
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If you want to make money, you need to differentiate yourself from all the other people offering similar services. It doesn’t matter if you are a musician, healer or life transformation expert; you need to give people a compelling reason to hire YOU.
The question is- How do you go about doing that?
I’m going to say right up front this is not about the nuts and bolts of what you do and how you do it. There are plenty of coaches, musicians and healers out there, and everyone has different tools in their tool box. People don’t hire you because of how you do what you do. They hire you because they resonate with your message and what you stand for. They want to participate in the revolution that you are leading!
Claim Your Revolution!!!
When you are creating your own business it is all about you and what you bring into your biz. It’s your vision, skills, personality and perspective that you are selling. If you’re a freak like me-blindly following some guru’s blueprint for success won’t work .
Embracing who you are and what you stand for will get you much farther and it will feel way better. This is what flying your freak flag is all about!
I bet your thinking- Who me? Lead a revolution? Am I even qualified to do that?
Oh yes you are! I bet you already have one in mind, you just don’t know it yet, or you’ve been afraid to claim it.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve coached someone to reveal their revolution, but they back away from it already convinced that they can’t do it or no-body wants it.
Once they embrace it; things start shifting and new opportunities appear. Like the musician I worked with who wanted to be the Soul Drummer and lead the revolution of music as a spiritual practice. He embraced it and within a few weeks the money started rolling in. He landed a new steady gig with an awesome church band and attracted other musicians who feel the same way that he now collaborates with.
Discovering your Revolution
Let’s start with identifying your unique perspective.
We all have a unique perspective and way of seeing the world; let’s call it your point of view. Your point of view is what you know to be true and feel passionate about. It’s the thing that drives you and the wisdom that you live by. It’s also what makes you special and unique. It’s always there whether you recognize it or not.
Take the time to identify your point of view and be conscious of it. Doing so helps you stay true to you, and sends out a powerful signal that attracts other people who resonate with it into your experience. They will quickly become your friends and allies.
Here is my point of view- I am here to be fully self-expressed and create my life anyway I want too and you are too! We are both here to fly our freak flags high and proud and do the things that feel totally kick-ass to us. I’m responsible for all my OWN outcomes and happiness…just like you. When we take 100% responsibility for our own lives and do what feels best to us; our lives will be totally kick-ass and we will be tapped into our ever abundant flow.
What’s your point of view?
This piece can be tricky because it requires you to take a stand and have a strong opinion.
How does that feel to you?
I see so many entrepreneurs who are hesitant to take a stand! Is this you too?
You don’t want to offend anyone or miss out on potential clients who don’t have the same point of view, so you water down your message and get wishy-washy with your opinions and become a jack-of-all-things. This back fires because then people get confused about what you do so they don’t buy from you, or you end up doing a bunch of work you don’t want to do.
You want to have an opinion and to take a stand for what you believe in- in your life and your biz! There is nothing worse than someone who is whishy-washy and doesn’t take a stand for anything. It’s hard to trust them or know who they are.
People buy from people they resonate with!
Ok…I know this is getting a bit long….in the next few days I’ll post you- Viva La Revolution Part 2- where I talk about how to come up with your specific revolution.
For now – spend some time identifying your point of view and send me what you come up with in the comment section down below.
Whats Your Theme for 2025?
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Happy New Year!!!
What’s your theme for the new year?
My theme for 2025 is being fully self-expressed!
I prefer having a theme rather than resolutions. Mostly because I suck at resolutions!
In my mind, resolutions take willpower and that is not something that I have a lot of. I gave up on forcing myself to have willpower a long time ago. It’s just not how I operate. I get more done when I choose to focus on bringing more of something into my life! It’s more fun and expansive which is how I like to roll.
What works best for you when it comes to making changes?
The first thing I’m doing as part of my self-expression theme is to start flying my freak flag higher and prouder in my biz. It seems like the perfect place to start since flying your freak flag is all about self-expression and letting people see the real you.
Here are some of the things you’re going to be seeing more of from me-
I’ll be talking more about the law of attraction and how to work in harmony with it to create your freaky empire. This principle is the foundation of the work I do and it’s time I gave it the place of honor it deserves.
I’m changing my services around to better reflect how I love to work with people. Gone will be the group programs, and convoluted coaching packages. I’m going to be focused on offering Unfurl Your Freak Flag Sessions and Booster Packs. (Email me if you want to learn more about this!) There will be two other ways that people can work with me that I’ll be revealing in the future.
I’m ditching my podcast that has been sitting around gathering dust for the past 6 months. It was fun for a while but I’m ready to move on to something else now…..like being interviewed by other people!!!! Don’t worry; you can still listen to all the past episodes here.
I’m focusing on only doing things that I want to do rather than things I feel I need to do. Over the past few weeks I’ve really been noticing the difference between these two energies.
When I want to do something- like work on my new kick-ass email series-I feel excited and expansive. I can’t wait to get started.
But, when I feel like I need to work on that same email series, there is a sense of pressure and constrictive energy about it.
Typically the thoughts that come with the feeling that I need to work on it are based in the idea that if I don’t work on the email series , then I’ll never get another client, or I won’t be able to grow my list or make money. Everything is contingent on my finishing that email series…..so I neeeed to do it! Can you feel the pressure there? I can’t produce anything kick-ass under those conditions!
Can you?
I invite you to notice when you are doing something in your biz because you think you need to do it, rather than wanting to do it. Which energy feels more expansive to you?
From a law of attraction perspective- which energy do you think is going to get you into your freaking fabulous empire faster? The expansive energy of -I want to do this- wins every time.
I’d love to hear what you’ll be doing more of in 2025! Go ahead and share away in the comments below.
