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It’s not all rainbows and kittens…you have to work for it
Posted by: | CommentsI’ve been wondering if I’m doing you a disservice by talking about looking for happiness in order to create your Kick-Ass Life.
I talk about the importance of feeling good in your life a lot, and this makes me wonder if I am doing a good enough job showing that in order to feel good in your life, you have to be willing to feel bad too.
The last thing I want to do is become another one of those air-fairy, woo-woo types that make it seem like all you have to do is think about the things that you want, and put a few picture up and everything you desire will instantly appear. There is so much more to it than staying positive and thinking happy thoughts.
In order to change your life you must be willing to do some things that feel really uncomfortable at first- like stepping outside your comfort zone, dealing with a lot of uncertainty, facing your fears, and making mistakes.
You need to be willing to feel the discomfort of stretching yourself and expanding beyond where you have been before.
The scariest thing that you will do is to stand in the place of taking 100% responsibility for your outcome. It all comes down to you and your choices.
Transforming your life takes courage and a bit of a bad-ass attitude doesn’t hurt. It’s all about you deciding that you’re not going to settle for an unsatisfying life, and that you are willing to do the work to change things.
In the end it is always worth it. And it’s not like you have to go it alone. There are plenty of people out there who are willing to help you….like me for instance.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m still going to talk about feeling good and being happy, but I think I’m going spend a little more time talking about the challenging aspects of the process and how you can make it more manageable.
Some Tips for Dealing with Procrastination
Posted by: | CommentsDoes procrastination stop you from creating your kick-ass dream life?
You made the choice to go for your dream and you took some initial steps forward, but now you seem to have hit a wall and you find yourself standing still. In your mind, you think you know exactly what needs to happen, but you can’t seem to do it. There are 100 other things that are more important.
All this procrastinating is wearing you down, and you are starting to mentally beat yourself up for not taking action. You are feeling bad about yourself and starting to doubt your ability to pull this thing off. After all, you know exactly what needs to be done, so why aren’t you doing it?
That is a good question!
Why aren’t you doing it?
Let’s take a minute to explore what procrastination is.
Procrastination is a form of resistance. There is something that is not in alignment. Somewhere inside of your subconscious, a voice is saying “don’t do it.”
The question you want to ask is “why not?”
I think that there are two potential answers.
The first being, it is not the right time to take action.
I find that this happens a lot around writing and other creative activities. You think you know exactly what needs to be done, but the idea really needs to percolate a bit before it is ready to come out into being. There is something that you still are unsure about. Forcing the issue does not help at all.
The best solution is to stop beating yourself up for not doing it right now and create the space for it to show up when it is ready.
The second answer is a bit more complex.
The voice in your subconscious is saying “don’t do it” because you are afraid of what is going to happen when you do.
Taking action to create your kick-ass dream life means moving outside of your comfort zone and that can feel downright scary!
When you ask yourself the question “Why Not?” the answer is: I am afraid of_________________( failing, being standing out, being laughed at, making a mistake)
The best thing to do is deal with your fear head on. In most cases, when you shine the light of awareness on it, it stops seeming so scary.
Next time you find yourself procrastinating, try these tips to move you through it.
Take a few minutes to acknowledge that you are procrastinating.
Stop beating yourself up and making yourself wrong for being in this place. Allow yourself to see what it is trying to show you.
Do a bit of self exploration to identify what is in the way. Ask; “Why am I not taking action?”, “Is now the right time to do this?”, “How does it serve me to not take action”, “What am I afraid will happen if I do this thing.”
If you find that you are not taking action because you’re unsure and not ready, lovingly give yourself some time to work it out.
If you find that fear is in the way, then explore that fear and meet it head on. Shine the light of awareness on it and determine if it is really a good reason not to go forward.
I would love to hear how these tips work for you. Give them a try and then let me know how they work in the comments below.
The truth of the matter is …….it’s going to be uncomfortable.
Posted by: | CommentsPart of being a rabble-rouser is stirring things up and making you think. I want you to question stuff and not settle for anything less than what feels meaningful, exciting, fun, and fulfilling to you.
But, I also want to be truthful with you.
Changing your life and committing to going after your dream is going to take some effort and I suspect that some of the time you are going to feel uncomfortable.
Really uncomfortable!
Uncomfortable enough for you to say: “Why the hell am I doing this?”
So, let’s talk about what this discomfort is all about.
The discomfort stems from you expanding out beyond your comfort zone.
When you commit to going after your dream and begin to claim it for yourself, you set the Universe into motion. It begins sending you all the lessons that you need to learn in order to fully resonate and embody the energy of your kick-ass dream life.
Let’s face it……..if you were already embodying this energy you would be living your dream life right now not trying to create it.
So in order to step into your dream you need to:
- stretch and expand
- learn some lessons and gain some clarity
- release some old stories.
That is why all the obstacles and uncomfortable feeling start to show up.
If you can regard your discomfort as the lessons, and the opportunity for clarity and expansion that it provides and meet it head on, then you will soon be enjoying the pleasure and satisfaction of living your kick-ass dream life.
I look at it the same way I look at getting a tattoo or piercing. It only hurts for a short time, and the payoff lasts for a lifetime. To me the discomfort is worth it. (Although, I will say there are some piercing I probably would not do again.)
The questions is: Is it worth it to you?
