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How to Create a Kick-Ass Life-Part 3
Posted by: | CommentsHow do You Deal with the Obstacles?
(This is the third installment of the How to Create a Kick-Ass Life series)
Here’s a cold hard fact- when you set out to create your Kick-Ass Life, you’re going to have deal with a bunch of obstacles along the way. There’s something about claiming the life that you want to live that attracts all kinds of problems, and issues. I’m not going to pretend that this doesn’t happen.
The question is- How do YOU deal with these obstacles?
I find that how you deal with the obstacles has a lot to do with how you regard them.
It’s Not my Fault!
If you think these problems are caused by something outside of you, and someone else is doing something to hold you back, you probably get mad, or defensive and can easily feel victimized by the situation.
In this case it is easy to feel powerless to change things so you give up or spend your time pushing against the problem, rather than looking for a solution. You blame, complain, and fight.
Sometimes this get’s you somewhere but often times it just makes you feel powerless, exhausted and unsatisfied.
I Can’t Do It!
If you hold the belief that you can’t really have what you want, and you don’t trust yourself to be able to create it, you tend to give up easily as soon as you are faced with challenges or problems.
Deep down inside you don’t think you can do it anyway, and the challenges and problems confirm it.
Then the excuses start to come. You don’t have the time, money, resources, education, and all of those other things that we say to justify why we can’t have something.
I could go on and on about the belief that you can’t have what you want. I could talk about not feeling worthy, deserving or good enough.
It all comes down to the same thing- You don’t believe that you can have what you want so you do not embrace your power to create it.
A New Way to Look at Obstacles
What if all the obstacles that you come up against are really just an indication of the places that you are not in alignment with what you are trying to create? What if they are just information telling you that there is something for you to look at?
Let’s face it; if you were in perfect alignment with your Kick-Ass Life you would already be living it!
Each of us is a very powerful creator.
When you set your mind to something and claim it for yourself the way opens for you to start living it.
BUT, you have to clear out all the old beliefs, perspectives, and ways of being that are not in alignment with this new life in order to be able to walk down that path and start living it.
When you recognize challenges, problems and obstacles for what they are- an indication of the places that you are out of alignment- it gets much easier to deal with them and move on.
Do You Want to Learn How to do This?
This is a new skill set for most people.
I can show you how to do this, and I have lots of tools and resources to share with you that make it so much easier to navigate the obstacles as you create the life that you want to live.
A great place to start is by signing up for the Create Your Kick-Ass Life in 2011 group program that gets underway next week. (Feb. 7th) We will be covering this material in depth during the third module of the course. You will learn how to easily navigate the rough spots and obstacles without feeling stressed out or held back.
Go here to learn more and sign up!
This makes it easy to figure out
Posted by: | CommentsI know that I have been doing a lot of talking about the Create Your Kick-Ass Life in 2011 group program.
It get’s underway next week, so there is still time to get in on it if you like.
I thought I would change things up a bit and offer you this video instead a another post about it.
I hope you like it!
(If you listen carefully you can hear my cat Spike attacking my other cat Tispy. It’s one of his favorite things to do.)
How to Create a Kick-Ass Life-Part 2
Posted by: | CommentsGetting Up Close and Personal with YOU
(This is the second installment of How to Create a Kick-Ass Life.)
A common problem for a non-conforming soul is that you lose touch with your inner guidance and you end up feeling a bit lost and full of self doubt.
I think this happens because for most of your life you are marching to the beat of a different drummer, and everyone around you keeps telling you that YOU are out of sync.
It starts when you are a child, doing your own thing, and your parents want to mold you into their idea of a good child. They told you to quiet down, stop being so silly and to try harder. You are taught to follow their rules and behave in a certain way. This is also when you are taught to ignore how you feel and to do what you’re told so that things will be peaceful.
Then Things Get Worse
This only gets worse as you grow older. You go to school and there are more rules to follow, but now you have to deal with the other kids. There’s a lot of pressure to fit in so that you will be included. There is nothing worse than being picked last for kick-ball or to have to sit by yourself for lunch every day!
It is really easy to begin to make yourself wrong for being different, or to try to force yourself into the box so that you will fit in. You learn to play the game so that you will be included or you don’t even try and you become the mysterious lone ‘lone wolf’ who is always off by themselves.
That was the route that I chose. I did my own thing, but I spent a lot of my time feeling like there was something wrong with me and resenting the hell out of the popular kids. It was tough. I was often made wrong for being different, and this made me doubt myself and not trust my instincts. It made me feel like I didn’t know what was best for me.
Enter Adulthood
We carry this behavior into adulthood. Society has so many ideas and expectations around what you need to do in order to be as a successful adult, and what a meaningful life looks like.
Most people are doing the exact same thing with their lives -go to school, get a ‘real’ job, get married, have kids, work hard to provide for your family, save for your future, and then when you retire you can pursue your dreams.
On a day to day basis it becomes one big miserable grind. It’s the same-old-thing day in and day out.
The end result is that you begin to tune out and go into survival mode. Next thing you know, you’re stuck in a gigantic rut and you can’t see any way out of it.
This is no way to live!! I existed in that place for too many years before I broke free.
The way Out
The way out of this big, frustrating rut, is to reconnect with yourself and start listening to the beat of your own drummer again. It’s still there underneath everything else. You just forgot how to hear it.
The reality is that you are the only one who knows exactly what you need to feel totally alive, living life full out, on fire and deeply satisfied. Everything you need to know is right there inside of you, you just need to learn how tune into it.
If you want to create a Kick-Ass Life you need to learn how to tune into this inner wisdom so you can confidently identify what you need in order to custom design your life to fit you perfectly.
In order to do this you will need to get to know yourself on a much deeper level so that you know your preferences, what works, and what you need to feel deeply satisfied.
A New Set of Skills
This is a new set of skills for many people.
That is why we will spend 4 weeks exploring different ways to know yourself better in the second module of the group program Create Your Kick-Ass Life in 2011.
Do you want help getting to know yourself better?
If you want to work on getting to know yourself better so that you can use this information to custom design your life to fit you perfectly, sign up for Create Your Kick-Ass Life in 2011.
https://defythebox.com/create-your-kick-ass-life-in-2011/
We will be getting under way on Monday, February 7th. This year long program will give you all the tools, guidance and support that you need to create your kick-ass life.
But I Want to Sing!!!
Posted by: | CommentsI’ve been ignoring my blog for a few weeks.
Sorry about that!
I’ve really missed writing here, but all my brain power has been taken up working on the info page for my new group program. It’s called Create Your Kick-Ass Life in 2011 and I am very excited about. It has morphed into something quiet spectacular and I am really excited to share it with you.
But that will have to wait for just a few more days.
I just had this really cool experience that I want to share with you. I’ll admit that I’m really over tired right now, but not in a cranky sort of way, it’s more of an excited, satisfied felling, like after you’ve been up all night having hot sex. (Unfortunately that is not why I am tired.) My cat Tipsy woke me up at 5 AM with some kitty love and I couldn’t get back to sleep because I was struck by some inspiration for the Create Your Kick-Ass Life info page.
Anyway-back to my story.
I’m chillaxin’ and listening to Pandora on my head phones while I finish up my work. This is different for me because I usually like it quiet, but tonight I’m listening to the Nora Jones station and this song called Breath by Anna Nalick comes on and I start singing along.
This song is truly beautiful and as I sing along I can feel it resonating through my being. Next thing I know, I am caught up in a big wave of emotion and tears are streaming down my face, and I begin to get choked up. I turn my focus inside to see what is going on for me, and what I feel is this longing to sing.
It felt like singing is something that I can’t have.
MMMMM…..interesting!
Who says I can’t sing??
Apparently I do.
If I am honest with myself, I recognize that signing is something that I always want to do, but for some reason I hold myself away from it.
It wasn’t always that way. I used to sing all the time when I was little. My Dad had an amazing voice and we used to sing together. I sang in school and my friends invited me to sing in their church with them. I even sang a song for my friend at her wedding.
A some point singing became something that made me feel really vulnerable. I became afraid to sing in public and in front of people. Then I didn’t sing at all anymore. It became something that ” I can’t do”.
I miss it!
I want to sing and I want to feel good about doing it! I’m going to reclaim my voice. In my Kick-Ass Life I sing out loud and clear without fear and it feels good!
Although, when I say that I can feel the fear in the pit of my stomach. I’ll work through it.
I will be inviting you all to join me for Karaoke sometime soon.
