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How to get out of and stay out of panic mode
Posted by: | CommentsDo you ever find yourself thrown into panic mode because you are trying really hard and doing everything that you can think of, but things still are not turning out as you planned?
I see this frequently with my clients, and I admit I fall into this trap sometimes myself. Usually it goes something like this: You have made the commitment to create your kick-ass dream life and you are diligently creating your own healing /coaching business. You are making some progress, but you feel like things have come to a standstill. You start wondering what you are doing wrong and you kick it into high gear and start working more hours, trying to figure out what you can DO to create more business and opportunities. The money is not flowing in as you would like, and you start to panic a bit.
You have no idea what the problem is, and failure is not an option. You keep pushing forward but it is all starting to feel a bit crappy and not so kick-ass!
What do you do?
Do you keep pushing forward?
After all, you are in-it-to-win-it. You are determined to make this work and you figure that eventually something has to give.
Eventually something will give, and it will probably be your health, or your sanity.
The solution to your problem is not working harder, more hours, or your ability to figure it out and push on through, even though that is what most people believe. This idea is one big ole’ pre-packaged belief. It is built up on the idea that you need to work really hard in order to justify having the things that you want, and it carries around with it an underlying message that if you can’t make it happen, there MUST be something wrong with you.
Just so you know, this is a bunch of crap!
Sure, hard work and determination are wonderful, as long as it is moving you in the right direction. When it is not you find yourself working really hard and not getting the results that you want, and feeling like there is something wrong with you because you can’t seem to make it work. You also tend to end up way off course because you start trying things out of desperation that are not in alignment with you dream and the results that you get are far from what you desire.
Are you familiar with that feeling?
The solution is to stop pushing and trying to make something happen, and to take a step back and calmly evaluate the situation to determine where you might be blocking yourself, or are out of alignment with your dream. Rather than doing more and pushing harder, I suggest that you take a break and go have some fun and get tapped back into how you want to feel in your life. Then evaluate the situation to see where you are off course. Once you have a clear picture of where you are and where you want to be, it will be easier to make some new choices and take some inspired actions to get you back on track move you towards your dream. It’s all about stepping back and fine tuning your process so that you get the results that you desire without panicking and going way off course.
Below I share some tips for doing this.
1. As soon as you start to feel frustrated and stuck, and you have the urge to do more and work harder, take a break and walk away from the problem for a bit. Go do something fun. (After all, your kick-ass dream life is full of fun and ease isn’t’ it?)
2. Spend a few minutes reconnecting to your vision of what you want to create, allow yourself to really feel it.
3. Consider these questions: Am I attached to my dream unfolding a certain way? What are 10 other ways that I can go about achieving this same outcome?
4. Notice what is showing up. If it is not what you desire, how are you resonating enough with this result to attract it to you? What do you need to shift?
5. Think about how you want things to unfold and how you want to feel during the process.
Try out these tips next time you feel stuck and start telling yourself that you need to hunker down and make things happen and let me know how they work for you in the comments below..
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Making Your Own Rules (my first video blog!)
Posted by: | CommentsToday I want to continue the conversation about rules.
I decided that I would play around with my IMovie software and make a video for you.
This is what I came up with. I hope that you enjoy it.
( The date for the class mentioned in this video has been changed to March 4th at 12:30-1:30 PM EST get more info. about it here )
What do you trust:Your Head or Your Gut?
Posted by: | CommentsThis morning I was reading the Fast Company daily e-zine. It is always full of interesting information. I came across this article Why Your Gut is More Ethical Than Your Brain and it got me thinking about how the Mind and the Gut works.
This is the way I look at it:
The minds job is to compare and contrast and organize information. It is a big processor of information. Our bodies are designed to be big receivers. All our sensory organs take in the vibration of what is around us, process that information and then your mind labels and identifies everything.Your mind runs everything through the filter of your past experiences. Your mind then organizes this information in a way that makes sense to you.
Our Gut/feelings are also responding to vibrational. Just in a different way. Our gut/feelings are a reflection of our vibrational alignment with our higher sense of knowing…the part of ourselves with the super big picture perspective. Some may call it your soul…or god..I like it call it my higher self. To me, the emotions and gut feeling make up my inner guidance system. Its job is to tell me when I am aligned with my higher self. If I feel good, I am aligned, if I feel bad I am not.
I trust my inner knowing/gut feelings way more than my mind when it comes right down to it.
Because the mind filters everything through your past experiences, and your beliefs and stories about those experiences, it is not offering the most accurate perspective on things. Your mind likes to justify your existing story. It is not necessarily dealing with what is, but rather with what the mind thinks is going on.
What are your thoughts on this? Do you go with your mind or you gut?
Thought for the Day…..Vibrational Alignment
Posted by: | CommentsWhen you find vibrational alignment with You, you personally thrive. You feel good; you look good; you have stamina; you have energy; you have balance; you have clarity; you have wit; you have abundance of all things that you consider to be good. You thrive in all ways when you come into Energy Balance with You. Vibrational Relativity – that’s what it’s all about.
Abraham-Hicks
Feeling good = being in alignment and in the flow.
Feeling bad means that you are out of alignment and bumping up against all kinds of stuff.
Resistance means that you are out of alignment, or you might be in alignment, but you are dragging your feet and digging in your heels so much you can not move forward . If you do happen to move forward while still in resistance, it is a very bumpy ride.
Take a minute and answer these questions below in the comment section:
Where in your life do you feel like you are in alignment?
Where do you feel like you are offering resistance?
Thought for the Day: Where is your attention flowing ?
Posted by: | CommentsLaw of Attraction 101: What you focus on expands into your reality.
Simple enough.
Most people are spending their time focusing energy on what they do not want and what is not working for them. They are very busy trying to fix it or are spending a lot of time and energy pushing against what they do not want.
In a way this is CRAZY! You are amplifying the energy of what you do NOT WANT by doing this. Every time you call up your friend and tell the story about how your job sucks, or you don’t have enough money, or how your partner never does the dishes you are essentially telling the Universe that you want more of that. ( joining support groups and online chat forums about what you do not want is amplifying the energy too.)
You want something to be different….focus your energy on how you want it to be.
Re-Write your story so that it has the outcome that you desire.
Call your friends up and tell the story of all the goodness that you see and will have in your life.
Talk about the things you are thankful for.
Join groups that support and talk about what you are wanting to create or wanting more of.
So…where is your attention flowing????
