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Unleashing the Wild, Amazing, and Beautiful You
Posted by: | CommentsThis week on our radio show- My Kick-Ass Dream Life- we begin a new series of 4 shows called
Unleashing the Wild, Amazing ,and Beautiful You
We picked this topic because a major component of living a Kick-Ass Life is feeling good in your own skin. This affects everything from your physical appearance, your health, and your ability to fully expand into your own unique brilliance. When you feel good in your own skin your confidence shows and you radiate positive energy out into the world.
The problem is that many women & men don’t feel good in their own skin! This is because we’re constantly bombarded with unrealistic standards for beauty that are impossible to measure up to. It is really easy to get caught up in the idea that you’re not ‘good enough’ as you are. This creates all kinds of inner discourse that affects how we feel about ourselves and what we think in possible in our lives.
Feeling bad about the way you look is so NOT part of a Kick-Ass Life!
The reality is that we all have our own unique version of beauty. Give yourself permission to embrace yours! The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to unleash the wild, amazing, and beautiful you that will be center stage in your Kick-Ass Life.
This series of shows is designed to help you embrace your own unique beauty.
Here is the weekly break down of what you can expect.
( Each show airs live on Monday at 3 PM EST-come join us and get in on the conversation. You can also download the recording to listen at your convenience.)
Monday-12/20 at 3 PM EST
Unleashing the Wild, Amazing, and Beautiful You- Claiming it!
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During this first week we will discuss the power of CLAIMING your right to be comfortable in your own skin, and we will discuss ways you can empower yourself to do this.
January 3 2011 3 PM EST
Unleashing the Wild, Amazing, and Beautiful You- Start looking for your own unique beauty.
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Today we will be focusing on empowering yourself to start looking for your own unique beauty.
When you look in the mirror what is the first thing you notice? Most people see their flaws. You notice that your butt looks too big or that your hair needs to be colored. Maybe you focus on the wrinkles around your eyes and how worn out you look.
When do you get around to looking for your beauty? Do you even see it?
Empower yourself to look for your beauty rather than your flaws.
During the show today we will discuss the reasons why you will want to do this and we will give you some tips on how to shift your focus so you can start identifying exactly what your version of unique beauty is.
January 10th 2011 3 PM EST
Unleashing the Wild, Amazing, and Beautiful You: What blocks you?
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This is the third show in our series ‘Unleashing the Wild, Amazing, and Beautiful You’- What stops you from seeing your own extraordinary beauty? What blocks you from allowing yourself to see it in it’s entirety? Did your upbringing focus on your radiance and gorgeousness? It is important to identify the stories and pre-packaged beliefs that are holding you back and keeping you from fully stepping into your amazing-ness.
During this episode we will address reasons why you resist embracing your wild, amazing and beautiful self.
January 17, 2011 3 PM EST
Unleashing the Wild, Amazing , and Beautiful You: Set Yourself Up for Success
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/my-kick-ass-dream-life-/2011/01/10/unleashing-the-wild-amazing-and-beautiful-you-amplify-it
This is the Fourth show in our series Unleashing the Wild, Amazing, and Beautiful You. Over the past 3 weeks we have talked about Claiming your right to feel comfy in your own skin, how to empower yourself to see your magnificence in it’s entirety as well as ways to recognize many pre-packaged beliefs that block you from embracing your kick-ass-ness. In this fourth week we will teach you how to amplify what you already have so that it easily expands into more amazing juicy goodness, and we will show you how to set your self up for success just by embracing your amazing self.
I hope you can listen to this series of shows!
The little mean girl wants to come out
Posted by: | CommentsThe other day was one of those days where I really loved my life! It was the perfect combination of work and play. It was also my massage day! Massage day is cool because I get to see my friend Dan and we chat and he gives me an awesome massage. It is surely part of what makes my life Kick-Ass!
As I lay on the table, and began to relax I started thinking about my day and a wonderful conversation that I had had with a really cool lady named Martia Nelson. She is a published author and coach who I was introduced to by a mutual friend. She had given me some high praise about my website and my writing style. She complimented my ability to write clearly using simple language that conveyed the meaning of complex information.
I was thrilled to hear these compliments as she said them! I felt myself puffing up with pride as she spoke the words to me. I readily received her compliments in the moment. It felt awesome to be seen as an excellent writer!
But now, as I lay on the massage table thinking about the conversation, I found myself discounting her praise.
In my mind it went something like this: “She just said those nice things to butter me up. She really just wanted me to have her on My Kick-Ass Dream Life. I’m not that good of a writer. I can’t spell and my grammar sucks! She didn’t really mean it” I started to feel small and suddenly life didn’t feel so Kick-Ass any more.
Do you ever find yourself doing that?
WTF!? I was totally making up a story about why I suck as a writer and how no-one would really praise me and mean it!! It made feel small and insignificant.
I will be the first one to tell you that part of your Kick-Ass Life is OWNING your talents and appreciating how awesome you are. So why was I laying here questioning Martia’s sincerity and discounting her compliments?
Part of the reason I do this because I have a “story” about myself from childhood concerning writing. This story says-my spelling is awful and my grammar sucks. I am always criticized for this. I have to be extra careful or I will be judged harshly. I’m not good enough because I can’t do this.
When I believe this story I discount people’s praise. I discount my talent. I discount who I am. I don’t feel very Kick-Ass at all.
Do you have stories about yourself that keep you from feeling Kick-Ass?
I think we all do!
So what do you do about them?
The first step is to acknowledge that you have them.
I find that noticing the stories can be the hardest part. Usually they are based on some past experiences that are REAL and TRUE! I AM a bad speller and my grammar is not the best. I always got bad grades in spelling and grammar, and it affected the grades on my writing assignments. It was always a problem. It made me feel less than the other kids who could spell. That was my reality in school.
The question is, is it my reality now?
Not really! Sure, I still spell bad and have careless grammar, but there is the magic of spell check which usually fixes things up nicely. I have learned how to proofread by reading everything out loud which allows me to catch most other mistakes. I also have an editor that I use. People praise my writing skills all the time. I am invited to write for other websites like Fearless Press and Owning Pink. My writing actually is something for me to be proud of and feel good about! My writing is Kick-Ass!
So why do I keep telling the old story that feels bad to me?
I suspect that it is because a small part of me is not fully ready to embrace my brilliance. It wants to keep me small and this old story does a great job of keeping me in that place. This small part of me used to be much bigger and it ran everything in my life…….but not anymore. Now it only slips out when I am not paying attention and brings up old stories from the past in an effort to regain control.
I’m not going to let that happen!
I’m going to keep focusing on the amazing-ness of my currant reality and tell a new story that supports me being an accomplished writer. And when someone tells me the love what I write, I am going to believe them! 
Start Looking For what Feels Good!
Posted by: | CommentsI am fresh back from an awesome long weekend spent engaging in pleasurable pursuits and I am really looking forward to doing My Kick-Ass Dream Life this afternoon at 3 PM EST. We are going to be continuing the conversation around some of my favorite subjects- owning pleasure and committing to feeling good.
Last week on the show we had a fantastic discussion about the importance of making a commitment to feeling good and understanding your relationship to pleasure. It all comes down to this- a Kick-Ass Life= Feeling Good. We want you to CLAIM your right to feel good in your life and commit to doing it by making it your top priority.
So why is this commitment so difficult to make?
It seems like so many people are committed to seeing all their own flaws and where things aren’t working for them but they get stuck around making a commitment to feeling good and noticing all the things that are awesome about themselves and their lives. It somehow seems easier to keep yourself small and insignificant than look for your greatness.
How do you empower yourself to let the goodness in and give yourself permission to feel good?
Last week on MKADL we talked about the first step- Claim it for yourself and give yourself permission to feel good and enjoy pleasure.
This week we will discuss the second step-Start looking for all the things that feel good to you, give you pleasure, and what you want more of. It is all there right in front of you waiting to be discovered. The thing is that we are not really taught to look for it. We are taught to look for the potential problems, and what isn’t working, and what you don’t like. Aren’t those things easy to find!
Interestingly enough, there are plenty of awesome, amazing things that feel good for you to find as well, once you shift your focus and start looking for them.
Try it! Make the commitment to look for the things that feel good to you for 1 week and let me know what happens in the comments below!
Want to listen to the show? Click this link and you can listen in: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/my-kick-ass-dream-life-/2010/11/29/nothing-is-more-important-than-that-i-feel-good-start-looking-for-it-1
Is working for yourself REALLY part of your Kick-Ass Dream Life?
Posted by: | CommentsWhat do you really want from your work life?
How do you want to feel at the end of your day?
What do you need to feel secure-successful-satisfied?
Is owning your own biz the real solution?
It seems a common belief that the only way to have the freedom and flexibility that you crave is to own your own biz or and work for yourself, but is that really true?
On Monday Nov, 8th at 3 PM EST we will be talking about this very thing on My Kick-Ass Dream Life . The conversation will be focused on exploring what you want and the different ways to go about getting it. You might be surprised at what you learn.
Come get in on the conversation!
You can join the live show two ways:
1. Pick up your phone and dial
(661) 244-9817
You will be connected with the show and you can listen in live. If you want to join in the conversation and share something, or ask a question you can do so by pushing #1 button to virtually raise your hand and let us know you want to join in.
2. You can click this link to stream the show live over your computer.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/my-kick-ass-dream-life-/2010/11/08/is-working-for-yourself-really-part-of-your-kick-ass-dream-life
If you go this route you have the option to log into the chat that is going in real time with the live show. You will need to set up a free blog talk account to log into the chat…don’t worry…it’s easy.
If you can’t make the live show you can listen to the recording of the show via the same link anytime you like after the show airs live.
I hope you can make it!
Why your Inner-Freak got a Bum Rap
Posted by: | CommentsLast week on My Kick-Ass Dream Life, we started talking about your Inner-Freak.
We all have one.
The question is: Do you trust yours and listen to it or not?
I find that many people have gotten really good at ignoring their Inner-Freak. They treat it like it is something to be hidden. They lock it away in some dark corner, and rarely let it out into the light of day.
Maybe that is why they have no idea what their version of a Kick-Ass Life looks like.
Not only does your Inner-Freak know exactly what will make your life totally Kick-Ass, it has a direct line to the part of you that has the big picture perspective on your life. That is why it’s not afraid to be different, or to go its own way. It knows where it’s headed.
I think your Inner-Freak got a bad rap because it likes to lead you off the beaten trail, and encourages you to try all kinds of things that other people might not be doing. It encourages you to be unique and quirky.
That can be a problem for some. It can seem dangerous and unwise, especially if you are trying to ‘fit-in’.
Hey…maybe it is.
But maybe it’s just what you need to discover what will bring you the most satisfaction, fun and meaning to your life.
What do you think?
