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Apr
27

The Truth About Naysayers

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“I want to work for myself so I can travel and do my own thing!”

“Are you serious? What about health insurance?”

Or

“I can’t stand this freaking job; it’s sucking me dry! I want to quit and work for myself!”

“Are you crazy? In this economy you’re lucky to have a job!”

Sound familiar?

Want to know why the people around you turn into naysayers every time you come up with a brilliant idea for breaking free of your pre-packaged life?

I assure you it’s not because you’re ideas are crazy and you shouldn’t do it.

The problem is that you’re talking to the wrong people!

Remember- you’re one of those rare individuals who are driven be the desire for freedom!

The naysayers are driven by a desire for security. They mean well and their comments are coming from a place of love and concern, BUT your ideas are always going to sound crazy and risky to them. They can’t help it; it’s just how they’re wired.

Just like YOU can’t help wanting to break free and have the freedom to do what you want to do.

It’s all good. No one is wrong in this scenario, BUT what do you do about it?

Find other freedom seekers to co-conspire and share your dreams of freedom with.

If you are really serious about making those dreams a reality; bring in the big guns and hire a life coach.

What would change for you if you got a big “Hell Yhea” when you shared your dreams?

What would be possible if you got the support you needed to bring your dreams to life?

I’m picturing lots of Kick-Ass-Ness!

I’m here to help you create the freedom that you seek. I’ve created lots of juicy freedom in my life and helped hundreds of other people do the same.

If you’re ready to rock, let’s talk! Email me here to start the conversation.

 

 

 

Kick-Ass Guide

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Mar
20

Say Yes to more You-ness!

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Do you ever find yourself re-evaluating everything that you’re doing?

I sure do!

Life is all about growth and expansion and CHANGE is a big part of it. It’s important that you check in every now and then to make any adjustments that you need so you can stay in perfect alignment with your ever expanding self.

Recently I checked in to see if the name Defy the Box was still in alignment with what I’m all about.  I’ve shifted a bit from being a rabble rouser and preaching about how society keeps us trapped in pre-packaged lives; and expanded into being someone who helps you amplify your shine factor by flying your freak flag high and proud.

I’m still talking about all the same things; I’m just applying them in a more expansive way.

I realize more than ever - you need to let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.

LOVE. IT. ALL.

When you do this you become super shiny and life feels kick-ass.

This is especially important when you are an entrepreneur. You’re selling yourself more than anything.

If you want to rock your business out – you’d better feel good about yourself; be really clear about what your super powers are; and what you stand for.

More YOU-ness all the time- show the people what you’ve got!  (I’m not talking about flashing here either!)

But in order to do this……..in order to fully love and accept who we are……. we need to let go of all the preconceived notions of who we THINK we are.

Reject the boxes, roles, expectations, and beliefs that you are trying to fit into.

Question everything to see if it is true.

Give yourself permission to be unique; brilliant; flawed.

HUMAN.

This takes courage! You’ll meet all kinds of resistance to you being YOU. People will call you crazy, and say that’s not the way you’re supposed to do things. They will try and make you wrong. Hell, you’ll make yourself wrong.

Do it anyway.

It’s so worth it when you hit the sweet spot of being in alignment and the world is opening up before you. You become a sparkly, shiny beacon of light that attracts all kinds of amazing opportunities- freedom, fun, people, jobs, money, and connection.

Life is Totally KICK-ASS!

Defy the Box and say “yes” to you!

Are you in?

What are some boxes that you are ready to defy?

 

 

 

Categories : Clearing the Way
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Feb
08

My Right People

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If you want to become a freak flag flying, freedom loving, money making machine, you need to clearly identify who your right people are and choose to exclusively work with them.

What do I mean by right people?

Your right people are the ones that you totally LOVE to work with and they love working with you too. You’re on the same wave length and everyone gets exactly what they want and need from the relationship. These are the folks who will be posting how awesome you are on Facebook and telling all their friends to hire you!

Determining who you’re right people are is a lot like deciding who you want to date. It’s important to be choosy and have a clear idea what your standards are and who you are a good fit with. You don’t want to just give it away or settle for whoever comes along.

I see so many business people giving it away and settling for anyone when money gets tight. There’s an air of desperation and they cast a very wide net and offer their services to just about everyone, which never turns out well. You end up working with people that drive you crazy, doing things you don’t enjoy and only getting so-so results.

Just so we’re clear- I’m going to share who my right people are so you know who I exclusively work with.

I work with rebelicious, free-spirited entrepreneurs who buck the system and are determined to make money and have fun doing what they love.

They either already work for themselves or are ready to make the move and need a bit of help fine tuning their vision.

I show them the way to more freedom, fun and money by flying their freak flag high and proud via my writing, tele-classes, and 1-1 coaching sessions.

More Specifically-

My right peeps value their freedom. They need to live life on their own terms and be self-expressed. Hiding who they are and conforming doesn’t work for them. They have (or want) tattoos, piercings, funky hair and rock out their own sense of style.

They are committed to living a kick-ass life, there’s no settling or just getting by. It is essential that they do work they enjoy and get paid well for it. They’ve already wasted enough time doing work they thought they should do to make money and didn’t feel right to them. Now they want to whole package- freedom, fun and money.

My right people are creative. They like to dress up in fun costumes to go to parties, and wear crazy sparkly make-up. They play music, sing and dance when they get together with their friends. Their houses are full of interesting things.

They are born leaders even if they resist that notion some of the time. People look up to them and they make an impression. They aren’t afraid to make bold moves, and express their opinions.

They are spiritual, into the law of attraction and believe that the Universe is conspiring with them to create the life they want. They are positive people and know that their life can be anything that they want it to be, but figuring out what that looks like is often challenging.

They are into healthy cooking, good food and hanging out with friends. You can often find them indulging in hedonistic activates- like drinking good tequila, eating chocolate naked, and hanging out in the hot-tub on a starry night. They’re very sensual and into exploring their sexuality and trying new things.

They enjoy electronic music and used to be part of the rave culture, punk or underground party scene. They did their fair share of ecstasy, acid and other recreational drugs, and still may indulge on a rare occasion, but now you’re more likely to find them enjoying a glass of wine, tequila or some good pot every now and then.

Finally, they are into personal development and making their lives kick-ass by investing in themselves. They take full responsibility for their outcomes.  They rarely blame, whine or complain.

If this sounds like you, I’d love to connect!!

Now it’s your turn. Who are your right people?

 

 

Categories : Align with the Dream
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Dec
20

Some Love and Some Biz-ness

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Some love……

Happy Yule!

Happy Chanukah!!

Merry Christmas!!!

May you enjoy all the Peace, Fun, and Juicy Goodness that the holidays bring! 

 

Some Biz-ness……

I wanted to let you know that I’m off on a mission and you probably won’t be hearing much from me over the next few weeks.

It won’t be because I’m not thinking of you! I picture you off enjoying the holidays just like me! I see you laughing, dancing, enjoying your friends and family, and drinking too much eggnog…… just like last year.

But, In addition to whooping it up,  I’ll also be off on a very important mission that will require all my focus and attention and I doubt I’ll have the time to write any blog posts!

I’ll be behind the scenes working my magic and creating something  new and exciting just for you.

Have no doubt that you will reap the benefits of it once it’s complete!

All I’m going to tell you is this- It’s going to help you unfurl your freak flag, make more money, and live a kick-ass life!

Ok…that’s all I have for now. I’ll be back soon with something very cool to share.

 

 

How Not Flying Your Freak Flag Is Losing You Money

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Nov
30

Are Expectations Part of the Evil Empire?

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How often do you end up doing things you don’t really want to do because it’s expected of you?

You go to collage right out of high school because your parents expected you too….or you get married and have kids because it’s what your partner expects. Then you spend all your free time running your kids around because you’re expected to. That’s what parents do.

I know someone who went to law school because that is what was expected. The fact that they had no interest in becoming a lawyer was irrelevant. They ended up spending $100,000 and wasting years of their life on something that they hated. Only to ditch it later when they woke up and decided to take their life back.

I let myself get totally burnt out and sick working 70 hours a week as a restaurant manager because it was expected of me. That was before I smartened up and decided that I was in charge of my time and how much I worked.

Living according to other people expectations is a slippery slope that often dumps you right into a pre-packaged life that feels crappy. Matter of fact- the first step towards defying the box and flying your freak flag is choosing NOT to live according to other people expectations.

This  makes expectations seem like they are a bad thing…but is that really true?

I’m certain that having to live up to someone else’s expectations sucks!  It’s limiting and tends to end up with you trying to cram yourself into a box of conformity. Not so very kick-ass!

BUT- I think expectations are helpful in some instances. Knowing what is expected of you in your job or by your partner is very helpful! It makes things flow much easier because you know what someone wants you to do. There’s no guess work.

AND- Having your own expectations for how things will go and what you will do is extremely helpful from an energetic perspective.

You get what you expect- any LOA student knows that.

Picturing how you want things to be, using your intention and expecting that it will turn out as you wish is powerful magic. It’s how I create my Kick-Ass Life!  What about you?

I think expectations are sucky when they are forced on you and there is no clear communication about what is expected so you can say “yes” or “no” to it. I see this happen in relationships all the time.

Hell, I sometimes do it!! I used to expect that my boyfriend would automatically come to all family events with me….because that’s what you did- in my mind at least. He preferred for me to invite him and let him choose whether he wanted to come or not. I’d get so mad when he said he needed to think about going.

Our relationship got much better once we started discussing our expectations with each other, and each of us having the option to choose which exceptions we wanted to play along with.

It’s all about the choice. (Isn’t everything??)

I know that some philosophies say to release expectations- but that’s a bunch of bullshit! We’re human and part of being human is having an opinion on how you want things to be in your life. That is what helps you live the life you want to live.

What I think we could stand to release is the belief that everyone knows what we expect and has to live up to it. When it comes right down to it, your outcome is up to you. No one else is responsible for it. You can have all the expectations that you want, but it’s all on you to make sure they play out.

Perhaps the secret is to become aware of what your expectations are. Then let people know what they are and give them the choice to play along or not. Just like you have the option of playing along with theirs or not.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

Are expectaions helpful or not?

What are some of yours and how do they serve you?

Categories : Stretching Yourself
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