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How do YOU Tune into your Inner Knowing?
Posted by: | CommentsWhen you are a non-conforming soul it is so easy to lose touch with who you are and what will make you happy. From an early age people have expected you to be something that you are not, and have made you wrong in your ideas and way of living.
No wonder you often doubt yourself!
The reality is that you are the only one who knows exactly what you need to feel totally alive, living life full out, on fire and deeply satisfied. Everything you need to know is right there inside of you, you just need to tune into it.
How do YOU tune into your inner knowing?
What tricks or practices do you use to stay connected to what you really want in life?
It’s not all rainbows and kittens…you have to work for it
Posted by: | CommentsI’ve been wondering if I’m doing you a disservice by talking about looking for happiness in order to create your Kick-Ass Life.
I talk about the importance of feeling good in your life a lot, and this makes me wonder if I am doing a good enough job showing that in order to feel good in your life, you have to be willing to feel bad too.
The last thing I want to do is become another one of those air-fairy, woo-woo types that make it seem like all you have to do is think about the things that you want, and put a few picture up and everything you desire will instantly appear. There is so much more to it than staying positive and thinking happy thoughts.
In order to change your life you must be willing to do some things that feel really uncomfortable at first- like stepping outside your comfort zone, dealing with a lot of uncertainty, facing your fears, and making mistakes.
You need to be willing to feel the discomfort of stretching yourself and expanding beyond where you have been before.
The scariest thing that you will do is to stand in the place of taking 100% responsibility for your outcome. It all comes down to you and your choices.
Transforming your life takes courage and a bit of a bad-ass attitude doesn’t hurt. It’s all about you deciding that you’re not going to settle for an unsatisfying life, and that you are willing to do the work to change things.
In the end it is always worth it. And it’s not like you have to go it alone. There are plenty of people out there who are willing to help you….like me for instance.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m still going to talk about feeling good and being happy, but I think I’m going spend a little more time talking about the challenging aspects of the process and how you can make it more manageable.
Where Can Happiness Be Found?
Posted by: | CommentsHappiness……..
Is it something that you refer to in the past or the future, attached to some big event?
Is it something you chase after, looking high and low for it to appear?
I’ve decide to start looking for happiness in the everyday moments of my life. I want it to be an essential part of my day that propels me into feelings of success and abundance.
Now that I am looking, I’ve found happiness in the most particular places.
Here are some examples………
When my kitty Spike jumps up on my bed at night and lies by my head so that I can pet him and he licks my forehead and purrs contently.
Cooking dinner with my sweetie, finding new recipes and doing the dishes together is always delightful.
Those moments during a coaching call when a client has an “ah-ha” moment and I can feel them expanding into themselves.
Sitting in my Mermaid Corner and looking up at all the beautiful mermaids hanging from the ceiling and watching the rainbows that are cast by all the crystal “sea bubbles” dancing on the walls.
Having the time and space to allow my day to flow as it will, and to see where it takes me.
How about you? Where do you find your happiness?
Are You a Non-Conforming Soul?
Posted by: | CommentsFitting in is so not your thing!
Maybe you tried when you were younger, but you had a hard time forcing yourself to be like everyone else. It always felt awkward and fake. You aren’t cut out for having the same hair style, cloths and lifestyle as everyone else. It just doesn’t work for you. You have your own freaky flair going on.
You’re bored by the notion of being part of the pack.
You’re not much of a follower. You have your own ideas about things and are not afraid to go off and explore a new path. That’s where all the fun is!
It’s hard to find people to spend time with who actually understand you.
Your unconventional ideas and the fact that you don’t try to fit in is threatening to other people. They often times try to make you wrong for being different. You are at your best when you are in the company of free thinkers and creative people who have their own things going on too.
Your interests stray far from the mainstream mentality.
You’ve always had a different way of looking at things. This can make you feel alone and like an outsider because the people around you don’t get your unconventional ideas. You’ve heard the words; “You can’t do that”, “What are you crazy”, “That won’t work” many times!
Because of this, you often doubt yourself and feel like it isn’t possible to live the life that you desire. The opportunities offered by the ‘mainstream’ aren’t in alignment with what you want for your life. It’s not uncommon for you to find yourself stuck in a rut and unsure of how to get out if it.
You want to live life on your own terms.
You are tired of trying to live up to other people’s expectations around how you should live your life. It’s exhausting and unsatisfying. You want the freedom to live life in a way that feels right to you.
There is a part of you that is crying out for something more.
It won’t settle for the unsatisfying, uninspiring, ‘normal’ life that 90% of the people around you are living. This voice inside of you will not be ignored! It’s demanding to be set free so that it can bring your own unique freaky flair out into the world, but you’re not sure how to do that in a way that feels right to you.
I can help you set your non-conforming soul free.
Being a non-conforming soul myself, I get where you’re coming from. I invite you to check out my services page to explore how we can work together to custom design your life to fit you perfectly.
How to Create a Kick-Ass Life-Part 3
Posted by: | CommentsHow do You Deal with the Obstacles?
(This is the third installment of the How to Create a Kick-Ass Life series)
Here’s a cold hard fact- when you set out to create your Kick-Ass Life, you’re going to have deal with a bunch of obstacles along the way. There’s something about claiming the life that you want to live that attracts all kinds of problems, and issues. I’m not going to pretend that this doesn’t happen.
The question is- How do YOU deal with these obstacles?
I find that how you deal with the obstacles has a lot to do with how you regard them.
It’s Not my Fault!
If you think these problems are caused by something outside of you, and someone else is doing something to hold you back, you probably get mad, or defensive and can easily feel victimized by the situation.
In this case it is easy to feel powerless to change things so you give up or spend your time pushing against the problem, rather than looking for a solution. You blame, complain, and fight.
Sometimes this get’s you somewhere but often times it just makes you feel powerless, exhausted and unsatisfied.
I Can’t Do It!
If you hold the belief that you can’t really have what you want, and you don’t trust yourself to be able to create it, you tend to give up easily as soon as you are faced with challenges or problems.
Deep down inside you don’t think you can do it anyway, and the challenges and problems confirm it.
Then the excuses start to come. You don’t have the time, money, resources, education, and all of those other things that we say to justify why we can’t have something.
I could go on and on about the belief that you can’t have what you want. I could talk about not feeling worthy, deserving or good enough.
It all comes down to the same thing- You don’t believe that you can have what you want so you do not embrace your power to create it.
A New Way to Look at Obstacles
What if all the obstacles that you come up against are really just an indication of the places that you are not in alignment with what you are trying to create? What if they are just information telling you that there is something for you to look at?
Let’s face it; if you were in perfect alignment with your Kick-Ass Life you would already be living it!
Each of us is a very powerful creator.
When you set your mind to something and claim it for yourself the way opens for you to start living it.
BUT, you have to clear out all the old beliefs, perspectives, and ways of being that are not in alignment with this new life in order to be able to walk down that path and start living it.
When you recognize challenges, problems and obstacles for what they are- an indication of the places that you are out of alignment- it gets much easier to deal with them and move on.
Do You Want to Learn How to do This?
This is a new skill set for most people.
I can show you how to do this, and I have lots of tools and resources to share with you that make it so much easier to navigate the obstacles as you create the life that you want to live.
A great place to start is by signing up for the Create Your Kick-Ass Life in 2011 group program that gets underway next week. (Feb. 7th) We will be covering this material in depth during the third module of the course. You will learn how to easily navigate the rough spots and obstacles without feeling stressed out or held back.
Go here to learn more and sign up!
