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Say Yes to more You-ness!
Posted by: | CommentsDo you ever find yourself re-evaluating everything that you’re doing?
I sure do!
Life is all about growth and expansion and CHANGE is a big part of it. It’s important that you check in every now and then to make any adjustments that you need so you can stay in perfect alignment with your ever expanding self.
Recently I checked in to see if the name Defy the Box was still in alignment with what I’m all about. I’ve shifted a bit from being a rabble rouser and preaching about how society keeps us trapped in pre-packaged lives; and expanded into being someone who helps you amplify your shine factor by flying your freak flag high and proud.
I’m still talking about all the same things; I’m just applying them in a more expansive way.
I realize more than ever - you need to let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.
LOVE. IT. ALL.
When you do this you become super shiny and life feels kick-ass.
This is especially important when you are an entrepreneur. You’re selling yourself more than anything.
If you want to rock your business out – you’d better feel good about yourself; be really clear about what your super powers are; and what you stand for.
More YOU-ness all the time- show the people what you’ve got! (I’m not talking about flashing here either!)
But in order to do this……..in order to fully love and accept who we are……. we need to let go of all the preconceived notions of who we THINK we are.
Reject the boxes, roles, expectations, and beliefs that you are trying to fit into.
Question everything to see if it is true.
Give yourself permission to be unique; brilliant; flawed.
HUMAN.
This takes courage! You’ll meet all kinds of resistance to you being YOU. People will call you crazy, and say that’s not the way you’re supposed to do things. They will try and make you wrong. Hell, you’ll make yourself wrong.
Do it anyway.
It’s so worth it when you hit the sweet spot of being in alignment and the world is opening up before you. You become a sparkly, shiny beacon of light that attracts all kinds of amazing opportunities- freedom, fun, people, jobs, money, and connection.
Life is Totally KICK-ASS!
Defy the Box and say “yes” to you!
Are you in?
What are some boxes that you are ready to defy?
Viva la Revolution! (Part 1)
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If you want to make money, you need to differentiate yourself from all the other people offering similar services. It doesn’t matter if you are a musician, healer or life transformation expert; you need to give people a compelling reason to hire YOU.
The question is- How do you go about doing that?
I’m going to say right up front this is not about the nuts and bolts of what you do and how you do it. There are plenty of coaches, musicians and healers out there, and everyone has different tools in their tool box. People don’t hire you because of how you do what you do. They hire you because they resonate with your message and what you stand for. They want to participate in the revolution that you are leading!
Claim Your Revolution!!!
When you are creating your own business it is all about you and what you bring into your biz. It’s your vision, skills, personality and perspective that you are selling. If you’re a freak like me-blindly following some guru’s blueprint for success won’t work .
Embracing who you are and what you stand for will get you much farther and it will feel way better. This is what flying your freak flag is all about!
I bet your thinking- Who me? Lead a revolution? Am I even qualified to do that?
Oh yes you are! I bet you already have one in mind, you just don’t know it yet, or you’ve been afraid to claim it.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve coached someone to reveal their revolution, but they back away from it already convinced that they can’t do it or no-body wants it.
Once they embrace it; things start shifting and new opportunities appear. Like the musician I worked with who wanted to be the Soul Drummer and lead the revolution of music as a spiritual practice. He embraced it and within a few weeks the money started rolling in. He landed a new steady gig with an awesome church band and attracted other musicians who feel the same way that he now collaborates with.
Discovering your Revolution
Let’s start with identifying your unique perspective.
We all have a unique perspective and way of seeing the world; let’s call it your point of view. Your point of view is what you know to be true and feel passionate about. It’s the thing that drives you and the wisdom that you live by. It’s also what makes you special and unique. It’s always there whether you recognize it or not.
Take the time to identify your point of view and be conscious of it. Doing so helps you stay true to you, and sends out a powerful signal that attracts other people who resonate with it into your experience. They will quickly become your friends and allies.
Here is my point of view- I am here to be fully self-expressed and create my life anyway I want too and you are too! We are both here to fly our freak flags high and proud and do the things that feel totally kick-ass to us. I’m responsible for all my OWN outcomes and happiness…just like you. When we take 100% responsibility for our own lives and do what feels best to us; our lives will be totally kick-ass and we will be tapped into our ever abundant flow.
What’s your point of view?
This piece can be tricky because it requires you to take a stand and have a strong opinion.
How does that feel to you?
I see so many entrepreneurs who are hesitant to take a stand! Is this you too?
You don’t want to offend anyone or miss out on potential clients who don’t have the same point of view, so you water down your message and get wishy-washy with your opinions and become a jack-of-all-things. This back fires because then people get confused about what you do so they don’t buy from you, or you end up doing a bunch of work you don’t want to do.
You want to have an opinion and to take a stand for what you believe in- in your life and your biz! There is nothing worse than someone who is whishy-washy and doesn’t take a stand for anything. It’s hard to trust them or know who they are.
People buy from people they resonate with!
Ok…I know this is getting a bit long….in the next few days I’ll post you- Viva La Revolution Part 2- where I talk about how to come up with your specific revolution.
For now – spend some time identifying your point of view and send me what you come up with in the comment section down below.
Any time is a good time to Amplify!
Posted by: | CommentsI know…I’m a day late with this. It’s OK. Any time is a good time to Amplify and bask in the juicy goodness of what you’re digging in your life. Hell, I’m a strong advocate for doing it every day so you are constantly sending the vibration of what you want more of out into the Universe.
So let’s get to it…….
I’m totally stoked about the latest free call I’ve put together called- How Flying Your Freak Flag Builds Trust ! This call is going to address the fear that flying your freak flag in your biz will make people doubt you and think you’re weird, or offend them, so they won’t want to buy from you. I’m bringing in Kristen Beiries- The Trust Marketing Expert – and I’m going to pick her brain about exactly how you can build wonderful, trusting, I –can’t-wait-to-buy-what –you-have-to-offer- kind of relationship with your people by fully showing up, doing your own thing, and being real. This call is going to rock…join us if you can.
I’m appreciating the amazing women who are in the Morning Whip with me. Erika is a fearless leader and she has attracted some cool ladies. I appreciate their reflection, what they are creating, and how they share themselves. I also appreciate the way this group has stimulated my brain and helped me distill down my desire for my coaching biz. It is a kick-ass environment for the expansion I’m going through right now.
I appreciate being home for a while! I’ve been off on so many amazing weekend adventures lately for work and play that I’m really appreciating my beautiful home and having some space to settle in and relax for the next few months.
I’m crazy for holiday decorations! This year I’m really enjoying decorating my house and getting creative. I’m doing my best not to go overboard! LOL!
What are you appreciating right now? I’d love to hear about it in the comments below.
Are You Caught Up in the Frenzy?
Posted by: | CommentsIt’s Black Friday- The day after Thanksgiving – and the media has been doing its best to whip us up into a frenzy of shopping activity for the Christmas holiday.
Did it work?
Were you standing in line at 3 AM to get a super deal on a new laptop or remote control car?
One of my brother’s neighbors was off to stand in line at Target at 9 PM so she wouldn’t miss the door-buster sales happening at midnight. She cooked all day to make dinner for her large family, and then was off to go shopping.
Whatever happened to spending Thanksgiving relaxing and enjoying our families, and appreciating all the juicy goodness in our lives
I didn’t get caught up in the shopping frenzy. Instead I chillaxed with my family outside by the fire pit, and then watched Elf with my nieces. Today we are off to the Philadelphia Zoo and to wander around town for a bit. I wouldn’t give up this time with my nieces for anything! I don’t get to see them enough as it is!
I have an idea!
Instead of getting caught up in a frenzy of shopping- let’s get caught up in a Frenzy of Appreciation!!!
It will pay off in a much bigger way! The more you appreciate in your life, the more you amplify the energy of what you want more of. Doing this sends a mighty strong signal out to the Universe saying- MORE OF THIS PLEASE!!!
Let’s go!!! I’m appreciating-
Time with my family!! It’s great to get together with my brothers, sister-in-laws and nieces for a very relaxed holiday. As we have gotten older we have settled into a great family dynamic and really enjoy each other’s company.
Getting flowers for no reason except to make me smile! My sweet boyfriend sent me a surprise bouquet of roses this week. They are so lovely and really made my day! I love that he is thoughtful like that. He is a keeper for sure!
New clients!!! I love the work that I do and the cool people that I get to help. It’s so fun to support someone as they own who they are and unfurl their freak flag. I love the ongoing conversation and shining the light of awareness onto the stories and beliefs that keep you from wholly being who you are.
This crazy warm weather! It was wonderful to eat Thanksgiving dinner outside and then sit around a fire laughing and enjoying good company. The warm sunshine is good!!
What are you appreciating from this week?
Share it in the comments below.
Open the Way For Your Ever-Abundant Flow
Posted by: | CommentsIf you’re not in love with what you’re doing and what you’re offering- you’re wasting your time!
Energetically things are all off and you won’t get the results you are looking for.
In order to open the way for that ever-abundant flow of juicy goodness to start rushing in, you need to be in alignment with YOU. This applies to your life and your biz.
If you struggle to figure out what to write about on your blog or e-zine because you’re wondering what people want to hear from you- you are out of alignment.
When you write posts and articles based on what you feel excited to share – the way is open, baby!!
When you do things because they are expected of you, not because you want to- you are out of alignment.
When you fill your day doing things that you are excited about and interested in- your abundant flow is gushing.
When you are in alignment with YOU the way opens up and your next steps seem obvious. You don’t worry about what other people think and it all feels good. You naturally attract people and experiences to you that are resonating with your aligned energy.
Take a minute to imagine what that is like.
You only offer the services that you totally dig offering in your biz. You put your own special twist on what you do and it feels awesome. You get excited just talking about what you offer and it’s so easy to write about and pimp out. The perfect clients appear. It’s a blast working with them and they get fantastic results.
This is what Flying Your Freak Flag in your biz is all about! Coming into alignment with YOU and becoming so bright and shiny that your right people can see you from miles away.
So I ask you- Are you totally in love with what you’re offering and the people you’re working with in your biz?
If not- you need to start Flying The Freak Flag, baby!!
I can help- set up a Kick-Ass Consultation and we can talk about it.
