Archive for pre-packaged beliefs
Is working for yourself REALLY part of your Kick-Ass Dream Life?
Posted by: | CommentsWhat do you really want from your work life?
How do you want to feel at the end of your day?
What do you need to feel secure-successful-satisfied?
Is owning your own biz the real solution?
It seems a common belief that the only way to have the freedom and flexibility that you crave is to own your own biz or and work for yourself, but is that really true?
On Monday Nov, 8th at 3 PM EST we will be talking about this very thing on My Kick-Ass Dream Life . The conversation will be focused on exploring what you want and the different ways to go about getting it. You might be surprised at what you learn.
Come get in on the conversation!
You can join the live show two ways:
1. Pick up your phone and dial
(661) 244-9817
You will be connected with the show and you can listen in live. If you want to join in the conversation and share something, or ask a question you can do so by pushing #1 button to virtually raise your hand and let us know you want to join in.
2. You can click this link to stream the show live over your computer.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/my-kick-ass-dream-life-/2010/11/08/is-working-for-yourself-really-part-of-your-kick-ass-dream-life
If you go this route you have the option to log into the chat that is going in real time with the live show. You will need to set up a free blog talk account to log into the chat…don’t worry…it’s easy.
If you can’t make the live show you can listen to the recording of the show via the same link anytime you like after the show airs live.
I hope you can make it!
What’s YOUR Game? What do YOU Do?
Posted by: | CommentsThis morning I was catching up on my blog reading and I came across this challenge put forth by IttyBiz.
Since I am fairly caffeinated and need somewhere for all this energy to go, I figured “What the Hell…I’ll play along”. (The suggestion of cake as a reward when you are done certainly helped fuel my desire too.)
So here we go!
What’s your game? What do you do?
I help unconventional, non-conforming souls, like you, identify the ‘pre-packaged beliefs’ that are standing between you and your living your kick-ass dream life.
I have an uncanny ability to see the hidden patterns in people’s behavior and stories about their lives. I can hear the conflicts between what you want and your ‘stories’ about how the world works and what is possible for you. I like to go deep and explore what is underneath the surface….this must be the mermaid in me…..and I have never been afraid to question people about these things and call out what I see.
It leads to a lot of “ah-ha” moments for my clients.
Once we identify these beliefs we re-write them so that they support you in living your kick-ass life right now.
Why do you do it? Do you love it, or do you just have one of those creepy knacks?
I love this question!
I do it because I can’t help myself! (Ask my boyfriend…. it drives him crazy!!)
I truly believe that we all have the ability to live our own version of a kick-ass life. It’s my mission to help you do that if you want it.
Who are your customers? What kind of people would need or want what you offer?
This questions is tricky because I work with so many different kinds of people….but that said, I believe that I work best with people who have these things in common:
- You are non-conformists and don’t really care about fitting in.
- What you do care about is living a life that gives you the freedom and flexibility to be your ‘freaky’ self and you want to support yourself in a way that feels meaningful and satisfying.
- You feel that you have something bigger to offer the world than what you have been doing up till now, and you want help bringing that forward in your life in a way that feels good.
- You are looking for someone who accepts your unconventional lifestyle choices and ideas and supports you in going for your wild and crazy dream.
(When I say non-conforming and unconventional, I am talking about being someone who is making choices to live life outside of the mainstream mentality. For example; You are poly, you hang out at BDSM clubs, you live for Burning Man each year, you are pagan, you love kink, the idea of living a vanilla life makes you crazy!)
What’s your marketing USP? Why should I buy from you instead of the other losers?
You should buy from me because I get you. I am a ‘freak’ too. I won’t judge you, and I understand what it is like to be constantly having to blaze your own trail.
I understand how being a non-conforming soul puts you in an interesting position of knowing that you don’t want what the mainstream is promoting, but you have no idea how to make what you do want happen.
I am also fun, I will call you out on your shit, and I encourage you to discover what feels right to you.
What’s next for you? What’s the big plan?
I have all kinds of big plans!
Over the next few moths I’m committed to making my blog totally kick-ass and inviting all of you to subscribe to my list.
I will be offering a series of free classes aimed at enticing you to join the Defy the Box Sphere that will help you create the KICK-ASS Life that you dream about.
The first class up is The 5 Steps to Creating Your Kick-Ass Life you can get more info here.
I will also be doing a call about Flying Your Freak Flag High and Proud, and How to Kick-Fears Ass When it Gets in the Way of Your Living Your Dream Life.
This will all be topped off by the opportunity for some of you to participate on my group program happening in January called A Crash Course in Creating Your Kick-Ass Life. This intensive program will teach you everything you need to know to create the life of your dreams in a naturally unfolding way.
I also am working on getting My Kick-Ass Dream Life, my online radio show, out to a much bigger audience. I want to get up to 1,000 weekly listener in the next 6 months.
Whew! This was fun! Now I need to find some cake to eat!
If this inspired you to sign up for my list, you can do that here.
Where the Juicy Goodness Can Be Found
Posted by: | CommentsThe surest way to bring more juicy goodness into your life is
by deepening your own relationship with YOU.
This is the most important connection that you can create.
Otherwise, how do you know what brings you happiness, meaning
and success?
This is trickier than it may sound for many people, especially the
freaky folks.
We live in a society where there are lots of expectations and
pre-packaged beliefs around how we are ‘supposed’ to live, and
who we are ‘supposed’ to be in this world.
When you do not fit into that mold,it is easy to feel like there
is something wrong with you, and you begin to feel unworthy,
undeserving, resentful, and a whole lot of other emotions that
feels yucky.
It is really easy to start making yourself wrong for being different.
The worst part is that you tend to settle for whatever comes your
way because you think that you can’t have anything else.
You are so busy trying to be something that you are not,
there is no space to ask yourself :
“What would feel good to me?”
or
“What works in MY life?”.
These questions are the key to bringing in more Juicy Goodness.
I know this sounds simple, and it is on one level,
but I also recognize that it can be very difficult to do.
So many people never learned how to ask themselves these
questions on a regular basis.
When we are young we set our
course for who think we are supposed to be in the world.
This course is not necessarily based on who we are, but rather
who we think we should be.
So we spend our time trying to force ourselves in to a life that
does not fit, rather than exploring and discovering who we really are,
and what feels good to us. We end up in jobs that are dull,
and meaningless, in relationships that feel crappy,
and generally feeling unsatisfied.
In order to make ourselves feel better, we shop, eat,
have sex with the wrong people, read self help books,
and usually blame everyone else for our misery.
We spend our time looking outside ourselves for the solution,
when it is right there inside of us waiting to be discovered.
You are the only one who knows what is right for you.
The key is being committed to deepening your relationship with yourself.
How do you do that?
Make a commitment to knowing yourself better.
Get in the habit of asking yourself some of these key questions:
“What makes ME happy?
“What already works for me and feels good in my life?”
“What do I enjoy doing?”
“What do I want from _________________?”
( my career, relationship, health, sexuality, or any given situation)
“How do I want to feel when I _______________?”
(Am at work, in relationship, walk down the street, anything that you do)
“What would feel good to me right now?”
If you really want to get intimate with yourself, whenever something
or someone is bothering you and making you feel upset, irritated or
generally uncomfortable, ask yourself:
“What about this is making me feel uncomfortable?”.
Listen to the answers and go out and use that information to create a
life that is designed to suit your unique style.
Surround yourself with the people and things that support your happiness.
Nurture the relationship with yourself as if you were your favorite lover.
Give yourself everything you need to be happy and feel great.
You will be surprised at how easy it becomes once you get in the habit
of asking yourself what you need.
As an extra bonus you will discover
that all the people around you will benefit from your happiness.
Soon enough you will all be surrounded by all the Juicy Goodness
that life has to offer.
Does this sound doable to you?
What stands in the way of you living your kick-ass dream life?
Posted by: | CommentsIf you could create your kick-ass dream life, what would it look like ?
What would you spend your days doing?
Who would you hang out with?
Where would you live?
What would the weather be like?
How would you feel when you wake up in the morning?
How would you feel when you go to bed at night?
What is stopping you from living this dream right now?
What stands in your way?
I suspect that many of you think it is the money, other responsibilities (family/kids), where you live, or a number of other circumstances that stand in the way of you living your dream life. But I am here to tell you that you are wrong.
What is keeping you from living a life that totally rocks right now is your stories about who you are and what is possible for you. We all have them. They are commonly called limiting beliefs.
Limiting beliefs are deeply ingrained in our subconscious mind and determine what we even try to do with our lives. They keep us small and prevent us from going after our big dreams.
Your Limiting beliefs are behind that voice in your head that says:
” You can’t do that.”
“Who do you think you are?”
“What are you crazy?”
“This is just the way the world works”
These beliefs keep you small and tightly packed into that box that society wants you to live inside of.
The interesting thing is that most of these beliefs are not really true at all. They are just some story that you bought into somewhere along the way (just like everyone else). I suspect that if you begin to question them you will see how quickly they fall apart.
The reality is that each of us can be, do and have anything that our hearts desire. There is no limit to what is possible when you sent your mind to it. The trick is that you have to believe that it is possible before you can allow it to unfold for you.
I am curious about where in your life you are not allowing yourself to go for what you really want because you don’t think that you can have it?
Where are you allowing yourself to sit in a place that is feels sucky because you think that is “just the way it has to be” ?
If you are interested in doing something about these limiting beliefs, you can sign up for a free 3o minute Breakthrough Session. During this session I will help you to uncover exactly what is standing in the way and what you can do about it.
If this sounds good, shoot me an email here and someone will get back to you as soon as possible.
Hiding Who You Are is Not the Answer
Posted by: | CommentsI just got off the phone with a really cool chick named Ginger Burr. She has a business called Total Image Consultants . We were having a great conversation about some of the pre-packaged advice that is often given to the freaky people who are looking for jobs. One thing we were discussing was how it is often suggested that you cover your tattoos and remove your piercings when you go out on a job interview.
There is a big flaw in this advice.
It suggests that you hide who you are in order to fit into that business’s idea of what you should look like in order to work there.
So…what happens if you actually get the job?
Then you are set up to continue hiding who you are for the duration of the time that you work there. Maybe after a few weeks you put your piercings back in, let your tattoo’s peek out, or dye your hair blue again, at the risk of getting reprimanded. The end result is you not being able to show up fully while you are at work. You will always be hiding something, and that does not feel very good.
I have a different idea.
How about you look for a job where they accept you, freakiness and all?
These jobs are out there. You just have to look for them.
Imagine working in a place where you can be YOU, where they welcome your diversity, and you are allowed to show up fully every day.
What would that be like?
How much more creative would you be if you thought that your unique perspective was welcomed there?
How fun and cool would it be to work with a bunch of people who got you, and you did not have to hide parts of yourself from.
Imagine what you would create together!
(Ginger and I will be discussing this stuff further on March 9th when she appears as a guest on Defy the Box Radio.)
