Archive for self-expression
There’s No Turning Back Now
Posted by: | CommentsI’m done pushing!
Done trying to convince people that society limits our ability to be who we are.
Done being a rabble rouser.
Well, maybe that’s taking it a bit too far.
I’ll still stir things up but I’ll do from a different angle. I’ll do it by dangling the promise of a life full of juicy goodness if you open up and expand into more YOU-NESS!!!
That approach feels so much more expansive, and that is what I’m going for.
A few months ago I realized that Defy the Box felt like it was pushing against something. The whole nature of defying the box felt like you had to struggle and fight in order to be yourself. (You’ll see some changes happening in the upcoming months to remedy this).
When I created Defy the Box I certainly felt that way. I was sick and tired of feeling like I had to conform in order to be successful.
The success that I had created so wasn’t worth it!! I felt like I had to hide big parts of who I was and it made me frustrated and angry most of the time. I also consumed a lot of everything in order to feel better.
After practicing what I preach for so many years, I KNOW that I don’t have to fight to be myself and be fully self-expressed. There is no one holding me back but me.
As I’ve learned to recognize the stories that hold me back and tell me that I’m supposed to be different, I can easily break free of them. Those stories are no longer an obstacle.
The more I fly my freak flag and own who I am, the more luscious my life gets.
There is no pushing or fighting going on. Now it is all about making the choice to release what doesn’t serve me and creating the space for expansion.
Now that I’ve unleashed myself there is no going back!
What about you? Are you pushing against something in your life?
Do you blame anyone, or anything for keeping you from living the life you want to live?
What would happen if you stopped pushing and made the choice to create the space for your expansion?
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What Do You Stand For?
Posted by: | CommentsHere’s part three of my series describing the three key components to flying your freak flag so you can AMP UP your shine factor and make more money.
In my last post I talked about owning who you are and what differentiates you from all the rest.
Let’s rock out Key 2:
Taking a stand for what you believe in
Why do you do what you do?
I know there is a very specific reason why you decided to open up your business.
On the surface it might have been because you don’t want to work for someone else, or it was to make money, but I know that there’s more to it than that.
Connecting to the reason WHY you do what you do, knowing what you believe in, and setting up your business to reflect that is the way to attract loyal fans who give you money.
It all comes down to this:
People buy what they believe in.
They hire you & become loyal fans because they resonate with what you stand for, and the revolution/transformation that you are offering.
The services you offer are the vehicle that transports people to your revolution
When you combine your revolution with your super powers; you become the obvious choice for your people.
If you don’t know WHY you do what you do, how can you compel someone to hire or be loyal to you?
Taking a Stand
What do you stand for?
How do you feel about taking a stand for what you believe in?
Does it sound scary to you?
Are you afraid that if you express a strong opinion you will lose clients and people will unsubscribe from your list?
You know what? They will! People will unsubscribe and not work with you, but that is OK. They were not your right people to begin with.
Look at it this way, you want people to rally up under your freak flag. In order to do that you need be bold and courageous and have an opinion. Give them something to say ” Hell Yhea!” to!
Be a revolutionary and wave your flag high and proud! That’s the way to rally up your fans. Give them something to rally around.
What if you offend someone?
Who cares!!!!! Stop worrying about offending people! It limits your self expression.
I’m not suggesting that you intentionally say offensive things.
No matter how careful you are-not everyone is going to like you no matter what you do. You’re better off being yourself and saying what you want to say. Give people something to talk about! There is nothing worse than being forgettable.
People hire you because they have a strong opinion about you and resonate with what you’re offering.
The people who say “Hell Yeah” are your right people, and they are the ones who will give you money. The ones who don’t like what you have to say or the way you show up, were never going to buy anything from you to begin with. Got it?
Spend some time identifying what you believe in and stand for in your life and your business. It doesn’t matter if it’s freaky or obscure. If you feel strongly about it and are compelled to take action around this, I guarantee that there are people out there who are waiting for you to raise your flag so they can rally around it.
Helpful questions for identifying what you stand for
What’s your point of view about how the world works?
What drives you crazy?
What do you see as missing?
What pisses you off?
Where do you constantly want to take action to change things?
In most cases, this is what got you into the business that you are in. It’s the WHY and the driving force behind what you do
Share what you stand for in the comments below!
Whats Your Theme for 2025?
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Happy New Year!!!
What’s your theme for the new year?
My theme for 2025 is being fully self-expressed!
I prefer having a theme rather than resolutions. Mostly because I suck at resolutions!
In my mind, resolutions take willpower and that is not something that I have a lot of. I gave up on forcing myself to have willpower a long time ago. It’s just not how I operate. I get more done when I choose to focus on bringing more of something into my life! It’s more fun and expansive which is how I like to roll.
What works best for you when it comes to making changes?
The first thing I’m doing as part of my self-expression theme is to start flying my freak flag higher and prouder in my biz. It seems like the perfect place to start since flying your freak flag is all about self-expression and letting people see the real you.
Here are some of the things you’re going to be seeing more of from me-
I’ll be talking more about the law of attraction and how to work in harmony with it to create your freaky empire. This principle is the foundation of the work I do and it’s time I gave it the place of honor it deserves.
I’m changing my services around to better reflect how I love to work with people. Gone will be the group programs, and convoluted coaching packages. I’m going to be focused on offering Unfurl Your Freak Flag Sessions and Booster Packs. (Email me if you want to learn more about this!) There will be two other ways that people can work with me that I’ll be revealing in the future.
I’m ditching my podcast that has been sitting around gathering dust for the past 6 months. It was fun for a while but I’m ready to move on to something else now…..like being interviewed by other people!!!! Don’t worry; you can still listen to all the past episodes here.
I’m focusing on only doing things that I want to do rather than things I feel I need to do. Over the past few weeks I’ve really been noticing the difference between these two energies.
When I want to do something- like work on my new kick-ass email series-I feel excited and expansive. I can’t wait to get started.
But, when I feel like I need to work on that same email series, there is a sense of pressure and constrictive energy about it.
Typically the thoughts that come with the feeling that I need to work on it are based in the idea that if I don’t work on the email series , then I’ll never get another client, or I won’t be able to grow my list or make money. Everything is contingent on my finishing that email series…..so I neeeed to do it! Can you feel the pressure there? I can’t produce anything kick-ass under those conditions!
Can you?
I invite you to notice when you are doing something in your biz because you think you need to do it, rather than wanting to do it. Which energy feels more expansive to you?
From a law of attraction perspective- which energy do you think is going to get you into your freaking fabulous empire faster? The expansive energy of -I want to do this- wins every time.
I’d love to hear what you’ll be doing more of in 2025! Go ahead and share away in the comments below.
Unfurl that Freak Flag!!
Posted by: | CommentsContrary to what you may think, your freak flag doesn’t have to be anything crazy, unless crazy is your thing!
Flying your freak flag is more about showing up fully and not being afraid to show the world who you are and what’s important to you. It’s about taking a stand and having an opinion and not being afraid to share and wave it about.
Flying your freak flag gives you the freedom to be who you are. No more hiding, making sure you say the right thing, and doing things the right way. That takes way to much energy-energy that you could use having fun and doing things that interest you.
I know- it’s scary to show up fully and wave your freak flag! You never know how people will react to it. People get offended so easily, but that’s not your problem.
Seriously…it’s not!!
You can’t control how people react to you and your opinions. Their reaction is not about you at all and is all about them. Not everyone is going to like you no matter what you do. So stop worrying about it. Be yourself; let the world see who you are; and live a kick-ass life.
One cool thing about flying your freak flag is that it makes it really easy for the people who resonate with your opinions and what you offer to find you. When everyone one is trying to fit-in and not offend anyone it’s impossible to know what someone stands for and who they are. It’s impossible to make a real connection with someone because there is nothing to grab onto. I think about it as one big beige blur….nothing stands out and catches your eye. You have to look really hard to determine what differentiate one person/ service provider from another.
Do you want to be part of the big beige blur or do you want to stand out and shine so your people can find you?
Here’s a fun exercise-Create your own freak flag!
Think about what you would put on an actual flag that would represent who you are and what you stand for. It could be anything. Think about the things that are meaningful to you that you would like to bring more of into your life.
My amazing and talented boyfriend made his own freak flag a few months ago.
Here is a picture of it- Pretty cool huh?
What do you think it says about him?
I’ve been playing with this idea for a while. I’d put a mermaid, with wild blue and purple hair and a corset on with a big vortex of creation swirling around her. She would be a wild child mermaid who manifests everything she desires. Teeheeha!
Play around with this idea for a while and let me know what you come up with. If you make one…send me a picture!!!!! I’d love to see it.
