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The Problem with Protecting Yourself From Your Desires
Posted by: | CommentsWhat do you want in your life and business?
The most common answer I hear to this question is “I don’t know”.
I think you do know, but you’re afraid to claim it because you don’t think you can really have it.
And that is the problem.
You don’t believe you can have what you want, so you don’t give yourself permission to go for it.
You protect yourself from your “unreasonable” desires by ignoring them. You only allow yourself to want the things you think you can have.
You think small and play small.
Guess what happens when you think and play small?
You ignore your desire to travel the world doing boudoir photo shoots and settle for taking pictures of kids and weddings because it seems doable and you really need the money. You end up frustrated and uninspired which negatively impacts your profits.
Or
You stay in the unsatisfying relationship because it’s better than the other’s that you have had, and you settle for a partner who doesn’t give you the love and affection that you desire. You crave affection and touch, and begin to feel undesirable. You end up wondering how you ended up this way.
Want to know how to change it?
Recognize that the only thing stopping you from having everything you desire is your story saying you can’t have it.
This story prevents you from dreaming and playing big! It makes you settle for an unsatisfying relationship, sucky job, and keeps you from expanding into your greatness.
We are here to expand, grow and be inspired.
Stop reigning yourself in and ignoring your desires. If you feel a strong desire that keeps coming back, it is meant for you! Give yourself permission to go for it!! The Universe is on your side and will show you the way if you let it.
The challenge is to identify where your stories about what is possible are holding you back. It’s hard to see these stories because you’re too close to them and they are wound deep into your belief system. You often need an outside perspective to see them clearly.
Here are so examples of the changes that can happen when you change up your story-
“You mean all I have to do is stop lying to myself?” is what an amazing women who hired me to help her improve her social life said. With-in one week of discovering the crappy old story that prevented her from having the relationships that she wanted, she was filling up her social calendar with fun new connections.
It can be that easy!
Another client let go of the stories that prevented her from going for her dream of being a documentary film maker, and someone else stopped playing it small and went on to create a life changing women’s event.
I can help you say “yes” to your desires and allow them in. You will be going for your dream job, expanding into your greatness, and tapping into all the juicy goodness that the world has to offer you.
Is this something that you can use? If your answer is “hell Yhea” send me an email and lets talk.
The Driving Force (Video)
Posted by: | CommentsI’ve been having a blast being part of Video Rock Star University!
I’ve discovered that I love making videos. It feels all up close and personal, and it’s a great way to share juicy tidbits with you.
Check out this video and take a minute to think about what YOU stand for in your business and what you need to give yourself permission to do, then share your thoughts in the comments below.
Taking a Stand
You can have your very own Unfurl Your Freak Flag Experience if you like!
Creating From a Place of Alignment
Posted by: | CommentsHere’s part four of my series describing the three key components to flying your freak flag so you can AMP UP your shine factor and make more money.
In my last post I talked about taking a stand and giving people something to believe in.
Now it’s time to talk about what will make you super shiny!!
Key #3- Creating from a place of alignment.
As I’ve said before, if you want to make the big bucks, you need to stand out and be super shiny to the people who resonate with what you’re offering.
Being super shiny comes from feeling great about who you are and what your offering.
In my mind this comes down to creating from a place of ALIGNMENT and LOVING everything that you are putting out there.
What does being in alignment mean?
It means your are lined up with that part of you that knows who you are and where you’re headed. I call it your divine self; you may call it your soul, higher self, god (insert your own term here).
This part of you is constantly communicating with you through your emotions. If you feel good, you’re on the right track. If you feel bad you’re off course.
When you are in alignment you are tapped into your ever abundant and prosperous flow. When you operate from this space things magically fall into place; opportunities appear and you stand out and become super shiny – this leads to more money!
How do you come into this magical, shiny place?
By doing what feels GOOD to YOU in your business.
You offer what you are inspired to offer, in the way that feels best to you, regardless of what anyone else says. When you do this you show up in a powerful way and it makes you super shiny and attractive to the people who want that special something that only you can offer.
Create everything from a place of alignment- programs, emails, blog posts, video’s, sales pages, pricing, EVERYTHING!
Tune into your inner guidance, feel for your alignment and trust yourself.
Alignment is simple enough to follow – when you feel good, you are in alignment and super shiny.
When things feel off, forced, or fake, you’re out of alignment, and you fade back into the big beige blur.
Are you ready to become super shiny?
This is a great place to start:
1. Practice feeling for your alignment.
Being in alignment = feeling good.2. Where are you out of alignment in your business?
For example – Where are you following a blueprint or doing what your coach says even though it feels off to you?
Where are you struggling?
If it feels forced or you’re not getting the results you want – ditch it!!3. Tune into your inner guidance – what are you excited about offering people?
Don’t get caught up in what other people are doing. This is your business. Offer what you want to offer the way you want to offer it.
Only offer what you LOVE!4. Think about your super powers and the most kick-ass way to share them with people.
If only booking client sessions 3 days a week feels kick-ass, you go for it.
If you enjoy working 1 on 1 with people rather than offering group programs, do it!5. Speak and write in your own voice.
Focus on communicating in a way that feels true to you. Your fans will get it.6. Spend time appreciating and loving up everything you are offering. This is an important step! The more time you spend loving up and appreciating what you have created, the more you amplify the energy of it. This makes it super shiny and irresistible to other people.
Are you noticing any places that you feel out of alignment in your business right now?
Owning Your Bad-Ass Self
Posted by: | CommentsIn my previous post I laid out the three key components to flying your freak flag so you can AMP UP your shine factor and make more money.
In this post I’m going to talk about key #1: Owning who you are and what differentiates you from all the rest.
If you want to own who you are: you got to know who you are!
You need to know what drives you, what is special about you, and give yourself permission to be 100% you in your full freaky glory.
Start off by answering these questions:
Why would someone want to hire you instead of someone else?
What is your unique perspective about the world and how it works?
What are your super powers?
If you can answer these questions – Yay!! You’re on your way to flying your freak flag high and proud.
If you can’t – you are not alone!!
I see a lot of people getting stuck and having a hard time answering these kinds of questions.
Are you taking these things for granted or having a hard time seeing them to begin with?
Have you taken the time to really get to know yourselves intimately, learn what works, or what your preferences are?
Are you too caught up in the bus-y-ness of life and trying to do everything the right way – that you’ve lost touch with your own way of doing things?
I suspect that you spend way more time thinking about how you can “fix” yourself and improve your perceived flaws. I’m going to tell you right now you wasting your time doing that. You’re way better off spending your time thinking about all your talents, preferences and what makes you rock!
Give yourself permission to be 100% you! Flaws, quirks, strengths, freaky bits, and everything in between!
LOVE. IT. ALL
I can’t express how important this piece of the process is!
I suggest spending some time reconnecting with YOU and what makes you tick. Set aside some quiet space in your day to journal, mediate, or just hang out with YOU. Notice how you feel and what your inner-guidance is telling you. Write it down. Notice with out judgement. It’s all good!
In most cases, the things that are freaky and weird about you are going to be your strongest selling points. All you need to do is embrace them and bring them forward ( I know, easier said than done! This is something that I can help you with. *wink*.)
From an energetic perspective…
Coming to place of love and acceptance within yourself, and knowing what your super powers are is vital if you want to become super shiny to the people who are going to buy from you.
How you feel about yourself and the work you do is reflected in your energy and people unconsciously respond to it.
If you own your amazing ability to express emotion through your voice or cut through the bullshit to see where someone is blocked, then you will be sending a strong clear signal out saying, “I am great at this!” You will attract opportunities to do those things. When you doubt yourself and aren’t clear on what you’re good at; you send out doubtful energy that attracts more of the same.
Here are some action steps to help you OWN your Bad-Ass Self!
Make a commitment to get to know YOU better.
Consider these things:
- Pay attention to what you do naturally and what interests you (this is where your super powers can be found).
- Acknowledge your strengths and your weaknesses and find a way to embrace both.
- Notice your natural rhythm and the way you like to work with people.
- Pay attention to what your point of view and unique perspective are.
- Identify what you stand for in your life and your business. What kind of revolution would you like to lead? (This is really important, and I’ll talk more about it in the next blog post.)
If your want a some extra help – The Discovering Kick-Ass Guide is just the thing-
Share your thoughts and questions in the comments below!
The Burning Question Answered
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I’m happy dancing with the opportunity to play with Danielle LaPorte!
She invited people to answer this question on their blogs -What’s one dumb thing that you used to believe in?
I’m so in on this!!!!
I used to buy into the idea that the way to be successful was to work really, really hard. Long hours spent paying your dues and saying “yes” to everything that was asked of you. You didn’t question your salary or your boss. You just hunkered down and did your best hoping that someone would notice the great work you were doing. It would all pay off in the end when you magically reached the point of success and got to do relax a bit and enjoy your life.
But that is never the way it turned out. The more I worked, the more that was expected of me. I had set my own personal bar so high, I couldn’t possible keep up with it. Sure I made some money and was good at my job, but I was miserable!!! Burnt out, pissed off and needing a really long vacation.
Funny enough, my own personal experience had taught me that the opposite of this was true. I was the most prosperous and happy when I was barely doing any work at all – selling E at parties back in the day. I’m not suggesting that you become a drug dealer, but I am pointing out that working hard was not necessarily paying off in my world.
Working hard for no payoff was what I grew up watching my parents do. My Dad went off to a job he hated everyday and came home and poured himself a drink first thing in the door. My Mom struggled to raise kids, get her Master’s degree and then build a career. They both worked really hard hoping to one day be able to relax and enjoy their lives….even if it would be when they retired. They barely made enough money to raise our family in the traditional lower middle class way.
Then my Mom got breast cancer and struggled with that disease for 8 years before it finally killed her. She was only 55.
Her last words to me were- Enjoy your life now!!! You are working so hard and so focused on your career. You need to stop and enjoy your life right now!!
You see, she had thought that if she worked hard when she was young, she would be able to enjoy her life when she was older…..but she found herself dying instead. Her words of wisdom- This was supposed to me my time to live- and I’m dying instead. Don’t let that happen to you!
I took her words to heart.
What I know to be true- Success comes from being happy and enjoying your life. Spend your time doing what you love. Have fun everyday!! Take the time to enjoy the people who matter to you. Breath!!!! Celebrate!!!! Live!!! The money will come.
I invite you to play along and answer this question too- What’s one dumb thing that you used to believe in?
