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The Driving Force (Video)
Posted by: | CommentsI’ve been having a blast being part of Video Rock Star University!
I’ve discovered that I love making videos. It feels all up close and personal, and it’s a great way to share juicy tidbits with you.
Check out this video and take a minute to think about what YOU stand for in your business and what you need to give yourself permission to do, then share your thoughts in the comments below.
Taking a Stand
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What Do You Stand For?
Posted by: | CommentsHere’s part three of my series describing the three key components to flying your freak flag so you can AMP UP your shine factor and make more money.
In my last post I talked about owning who you are and what differentiates you from all the rest.
Let’s rock out Key 2:
Taking a stand for what you believe in
Why do you do what you do?
I know there is a very specific reason why you decided to open up your business.
On the surface it might have been because you don’t want to work for someone else, or it was to make money, but I know that there’s more to it than that.
Connecting to the reason WHY you do what you do, knowing what you believe in, and setting up your business to reflect that is the way to attract loyal fans who give you money.
It all comes down to this:
People buy what they believe in.
They hire you & become loyal fans because they resonate with what you stand for, and the revolution/transformation that you are offering.
The services you offer are the vehicle that transports people to your revolution
When you combine your revolution with your super powers; you become the obvious choice for your people.
If you don’t know WHY you do what you do, how can you compel someone to hire or be loyal to you?
Taking a Stand
What do you stand for?
How do you feel about taking a stand for what you believe in?
Does it sound scary to you?
Are you afraid that if you express a strong opinion you will lose clients and people will unsubscribe from your list?
You know what? They will! People will unsubscribe and not work with you, but that is OK. They were not your right people to begin with.
Look at it this way, you want people to rally up under your freak flag. In order to do that you need be bold and courageous and have an opinion. Give them something to say ” Hell Yhea!” to!
Be a revolutionary and wave your flag high and proud! That’s the way to rally up your fans. Give them something to rally around.
What if you offend someone?
Who cares!!!!! Stop worrying about offending people! It limits your self expression.
I’m not suggesting that you intentionally say offensive things.
No matter how careful you are-not everyone is going to like you no matter what you do. You’re better off being yourself and saying what you want to say. Give people something to talk about! There is nothing worse than being forgettable.
People hire you because they have a strong opinion about you and resonate with what you’re offering.
The people who say “Hell Yeah” are your right people, and they are the ones who will give you money. The ones who don’t like what you have to say or the way you show up, were never going to buy anything from you to begin with. Got it?
Spend some time identifying what you believe in and stand for in your life and your business. It doesn’t matter if it’s freaky or obscure. If you feel strongly about it and are compelled to take action around this, I guarantee that there are people out there who are waiting for you to raise your flag so they can rally around it.
Helpful questions for identifying what you stand for
What’s your point of view about how the world works?
What drives you crazy?
What do you see as missing?
What pisses you off?
Where do you constantly want to take action to change things?
In most cases, this is what got you into the business that you are in. It’s the WHY and the driving force behind what you do
Share what you stand for in the comments below!
Viva La Revolution (Part 2)
Posted by: | Comments 
As promised, I am back with part 2 of – Viva La Revolution- how to identify your Revolution.
It’s all about showing up fully, differentiating yourself, and giving people a compelling reason to hire you so you can stop settling and make some real money doing what you love.
I left you thinking about your point of view.
In case you forgot- Your point of view is your unique perspective. It’s what you know to be true and feel passionate about. It’s the thing that drives you and the wisdom that you live by. It’s also what makes you special and unique.
It’s important to take the time to identify your point of view and be conscious of it because doing so helps you stay true to you, and sends out a powerful signal that attracts other people who resonate with it into your experience. They will quickly become your friends and allies.
Your Revolution
Once you have your point of view down, it’s time to move onto your Revolution.
Your Revolution springs out of your point of view and is based on what drives you crazy, what you see as missing, and where you constantly want to take action to change things. In most cases, this is what got you into the business that you are in. It’s the WHY and the driving force behind what you do.
Don’t be afraid to claim it!!!
I want to throw out there that your Revolution is about you taking a stand for what you believe in. Don’t be afraid to take a stand for the change you really want to see and raise up your flag. It doesn’t need to be popular or politically correct. It can go against what other people are doing and saying.
Matter of fact…it’s better to be bold! That is what a revolution is all about…shaking things up and saying “This can be different and I’m going to show you how”.
Your revolution is that thing that you can’t stop talking about! It will compel you to write a book and launch a website because you are passionate about it! You want to show other people how to avoid falling into this trap!
Your Revolution is a rallying point for people. They will get behind you and want to be part of it.
My revolution –
My revolution springs from being upset that so many talented musicians, coaches, and healers feel they have to give up their dreams, conform and settle for soul-sucking jobs in order to make money. If they do choose to do what they love, they think they have to conform to the standard way of doing things or settle for not making any money and barely getting by.
It breaks my heart because I know that they CAN make money doing what they love and being themselves; if they would just go for it and believe that it can happen and trust that there are plenty of people out there who will buy what they are offering.
My revolution is: Making money doing what you love while being 100% you in your full freaky glory! No settling or conforming!
I want you to pursue what interests you, do your own thing and own that special something –something that only you can share with the world. The goal is to be excited about what you’re doing and loving what you offer.
Love it! Own it! And fly that freak flag high and proud!
Is this a revolution that you want to be part of?
It’s your turn- What’s your revolution all about?
Remember-your revolution is personal. Think about what your journey in life has been about, what you have to learn and what you feel compelled to share. Who cares if 100 people are already talking about the similar thing! No one can do it like you.
Unfurl your freak flag!
Share what you come up with in the comments below.
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If you need any help figuring out your revolution-sign up for an Unfurl Your Freak Flag Session!
Unfurl Your Freak Flag Sessions are 90 minutes of you and me time on the phone talking about all the ways you can make more money by bringing all of you into your biz. We’ll talk about your revolution, eliminating competition, standing out and shining, and rallying up the folks who are excited about giving you money. When we are done, you will have some clear strategies for unfurling your freak flag and flying it high and proud so you can make some real money!!!
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Running For My Life (plus a cool video)
Posted by: | CommentsThere is a really cool video called Dare-Change that has been kicking around the web for a while that brings me to tears every time I see it, because it reminds me of something from my child hood; a powerful event that made me the neighborhood hero for one summer and shaped the way I deal with fear and challenges to this day.
I’m curious how you deal with fear and challenge?
Do you step away from it- or as in my story below; run for your life- or do you take a stand and meet it head on?
Here’s my story of running for my life-
It was a beautiful summer afternoon in 1978.
I was 13 years old and I was setting out to do my paper route. Somehow I had managed to convince a bunch of the kids in my neighborhood to come with me. There were 8 of us laughing and screaming and having a grand old time.
At the beginning of my route, there was one long stretch of road that we considered to be the danger zone.
There was a scary house up a long driveway with a crazy old man living in it. He had a bunch of mean attack dogs penned up in the yard. They would bark and howl whenever I would walk by.
It was scary!! Our parents warned us to stay away from that house because there were all kinds of stories about the dogs attacking people!
As the gang of us approached the house, we quieted down our laughing and shouting and tried to sneak by unnoticed, but it didn’t work! The dogs started barking and howling, and next thing you know they were running down the long driveway after us!!
“Holy Shit!!!!”
We all looked at each other in panic and someone yelled RUN!!!!
All 8 of us took off in different directions.
I was running for my life!!
I sprinted down the road faster than I’d ever run before. I glanced back and saw a big German Shepard coming after me; barking and gaining fast! I was petrified! I knew that if that dog caught me I would be dead meat.
I was getting panicky; the vicious beast was right behind me! He was nipping at my heals.
Then something switched over inside of me. I was still scared but I knew that running was not the answer.
I need to take a stand!
I stopped dead in my tracks and spun around and screamed right in the dogs face- “Get away from me!!”
I remember the dog looking me right in the eye, with a surprised look on his face. I prepared to be attacked, but the dog turned tail and ran away!
WOW!!! I was still alive and not bleeding! Whoot-hoot!!
Can I tell you how powerful I felt!!
Within the next minute or so the owner of the dogs drove up and called them all home. The ordeal was over!
The rest of the kids emerged from their hiding paces one by one in awe of my bravery and power! I was the hero for the rest of that summer.
From then on I stood up to my fear and any challenges that came along. I learned take a stand and meet it head on.
This came in handy later on in life when I was a bouncer at a cool Boston nightclub, but that is a different story( ask me and I’ll tell you about it sometime).
Here’s the video-bet you can’t make it through without tearing up!
Did you get through without crying?
I’d love to hear YOUR stories of dealing with challenge and fear in the comments below.
Unfurl that Freak Flag!!
Posted by: | CommentsContrary to what you may think, your freak flag doesn’t have to be anything crazy, unless crazy is your thing!
Flying your freak flag is more about showing up fully and not being afraid to show the world who you are and what’s important to you. It’s about taking a stand and having an opinion and not being afraid to share and wave it about.
Flying your freak flag gives you the freedom to be who you are. No more hiding, making sure you say the right thing, and doing things the right way. That takes way to much energy-energy that you could use having fun and doing things that interest you.
I know- it’s scary to show up fully and wave your freak flag! You never know how people will react to it. People get offended so easily, but that’s not your problem.
Seriously…it’s not!!
You can’t control how people react to you and your opinions. Their reaction is not about you at all and is all about them. Not everyone is going to like you no matter what you do. So stop worrying about it. Be yourself; let the world see who you are; and live a kick-ass life.
One cool thing about flying your freak flag is that it makes it really easy for the people who resonate with your opinions and what you offer to find you. When everyone one is trying to fit-in and not offend anyone it’s impossible to know what someone stands for and who they are. It’s impossible to make a real connection with someone because there is nothing to grab onto. I think about it as one big beige blur….nothing stands out and catches your eye. You have to look really hard to determine what differentiate one person/ service provider from another.
Do you want to be part of the big beige blur or do you want to stand out and shine so your people can find you?
Here’s a fun exercise-Create your own freak flag!
Think about what you would put on an actual flag that would represent who you are and what you stand for. It could be anything. Think about the things that are meaningful to you that you would like to bring more of into your life.
My amazing and talented boyfriend made his own freak flag a few months ago.
Here is a picture of it- Pretty cool huh?
What do you think it says about him?
I’ve been playing with this idea for a while. I’d put a mermaid, with wild blue and purple hair and a corset on with a big vortex of creation swirling around her. She would be a wild child mermaid who manifests everything she desires. Teeheeha!
Play around with this idea for a while and let me know what you come up with. If you make one…send me a picture!!!!! I’d love to see it.
