My deepest fears revealed.
ByThis morning I was reading Chris Guillebeau’s blog over at The Art of Non-Conformity and this really got me thinking:
The reasons we fail to begin are frequently cited as: time, money, or something else external.
The reasons we actually fail to begin are often: fear, inertia, or something else internal.
It’s socially acceptable to blame our indecisiveness on a lack of resources. Everyone understands when you say you’re waiting for a change in situation before beginning. But in fact, it’s relatively easy to deal with the lack of resources. What’s harder is taking the first, critical steps toward overcoming the internal obstacles. The act of beginning something is powerful. Putting words to page, setting an unbreakable date on the calendar, making a firm commitment.
Back in the day when I was all caught up in my uninspiring, unsatisfying pre-packaged life, I had a million reasons why I had to stay at my job, and not make the changes necessary to break free and pursue my kick-ass dream life. I rarely allowed myself the time and space to imagine what would be better or what exactly my kick-ass dream life looked like.
There were too many reasons to stay put:
I had bills to pay, and responsibilities to attend to.
I did not have enough money.
I was too exhausted after work and did not have the time or energy for it.
I just needed to get through the holidays and then I could consider something different.
The reality was that I was very afraid, and I did not want to admit that, or examine it too closely, so I hid behind all the common excuses that people use to not move forward and change things in their lives, and I continued to be miserable.
Now when I look back it is easy to see what my deepest fears were:
Not knowing how to go about getting what I wanted.
Making a mistake.
I wanted change but I was afraid of it as well.
All the scary Unknown factors.
The biggest fear of them all was that I could not do it. What if I failed and everyone laughed at me for even trying?
I am wondering what is really hiding behind all your reasons and excuses for not going after your kick-ass dream life right now?
I can speak from my experience with my own life, and working with clients, once you begin to examine these things and shine the light of awareness on them, it is often easier that you ever dreamed of to move past them.
I think Chris is right on the money when he says: “It’s socially acceptable to blame our indecisiveness on a lack of resources. Everyone understands when you say you’re waiting for a change in situation before beginning. But in fact, it’s relatively easy to deal with the lack of resources.”
I am going to be bold here and talk about the excuse of not having enough money to invest in yourself and creating your dream life.
This is one thing I know to be true: Being uninspired, unhappy, and unsatisfied is an expensive habit.
It takes a lot of resources to fill that void that you are feeling when you are living in this place! Think about all the money you spend on things to make you feel better…….retail therapy, too much food, drinks, toys and gadgets, self help books, and other quick fixes. This is why we consume so much in this country! People are trying to feel better, or that they are enough….you need these things in order to feel good.
What if you felt good without having to buy anything? That is what living your kick-ass dream life can do for you.
I will say that the best money I have ever spent was investing in myself & my dreams. It has paid for itself 100 times over in so many different ways.
So, all excuses aside………..how can you start stepping into your kick-ass dream life today?
If you want help with this, sign up for The CRASH Course and I will walk you through it. ( I know I am selling something here but it is a really helpful program that will lead you right into your happy place.)