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The Problem with Protecting Yourself From Your Desires
Posted by: | CommentsWhat do you want in your life and business?
The most common answer I hear to this question is “I don’t know”.
I think you do know, but you’re afraid to claim it because you don’t think you can really have it.
And that is the problem.
You don’t believe you can have what you want, so you don’t give yourself permission to go for it.
You protect yourself from your “unreasonable” desires by ignoring them. You only allow yourself to want the things you think you can have.
You think small and play small.
Guess what happens when you think and play small?
You ignore your desire to travel the world doing boudoir photo shoots and settle for taking pictures of kids and weddings because it seems doable and you really need the money. You end up frustrated and uninspired which negatively impacts your profits.
Or
You stay in the unsatisfying relationship because it’s better than the other’s that you have had, and you settle for a partner who doesn’t give you the love and affection that you desire. You crave affection and touch, and begin to feel undesirable. You end up wondering how you ended up this way.
Want to know how to change it?
Recognize that the only thing stopping you from having everything you desire is your story saying you can’t have it.
This story prevents you from dreaming and playing big! It makes you settle for an unsatisfying relationship, sucky job, and keeps you from expanding into your greatness.
We are here to expand, grow and be inspired.
Stop reigning yourself in and ignoring your desires. If you feel a strong desire that keeps coming back, it is meant for you! Give yourself permission to go for it!! The Universe is on your side and will show you the way if you let it.
The challenge is to identify where your stories about what is possible are holding you back. It’s hard to see these stories because you’re too close to them and they are wound deep into your belief system. You often need an outside perspective to see them clearly.
Here are so examples of the changes that can happen when you change up your story-
“You mean all I have to do is stop lying to myself?” is what an amazing women who hired me to help her improve her social life said. With-in one week of discovering the crappy old story that prevented her from having the relationships that she wanted, she was filling up her social calendar with fun new connections.
It can be that easy!
Another client let go of the stories that prevented her from going for her dream of being a documentary film maker, and someone else stopped playing it small and went on to create a life changing women’s event.
I can help you say “yes” to your desires and allow them in. You will be going for your dream job, expanding into your greatness, and tapping into all the juicy goodness that the world has to offer you.
Is this something that you can use? If your answer is “hell Yhea” send me an email and lets talk.
Appreciations in 100 Words or Less
Posted by: | CommentsI’m going to see if I can do Amplification Friday in 100 words or less today because I’m conserving energy for the Kinky Halloween party tonight. (A girl’s got to have her priorities)
I’m appreciating –
OJ- the delicious nectar nourished me through the worst of my flu.
True Blood- provided me hours of mindless entertainment when I couldn’t sleep.
My sweetie –he brought me emergency chicken soup to make me feel better.
The big shift in consciousness that made me sick– the realization that I had drifted away from my own belief system about money flowing easily too me, and seeing how I had been making everything way too complicated in my biz. Now it’s all about making it simple and easy. I’ll be talking more about this later.
( 96 words—yes!)
What are you appreciating right now? Please share in the comments below.
Heartache, Hardship and Freedom
Posted by: | CommentsLet’s face it-We all have stories that keep us stuck in crappy situations that clearly aren’t part of our Kick-Ass Lives!
These stories run deep and often times we don’t even notice them because they’ve been part of our belief system for so long. They steal our freedom to choose and we end up feeling powerless to change a crappy situation because we think that’s just the way it is.
Here is an example of one such story that I was carrying around that caused me a lot of heartache and dissatisfaction in my romantic life.
When I was small I had extravagant taste- I still do- and for as long as I can remember my Mom and Nana would tell me that I needed to marry a rich man to buy the things that I wanted for me.
This idea did not work for me. Even as a child, I was super independent and didn’t want to depend on anyone for anything! I declared that I was going to be rich myself and men were going to want me for my money. I would re-tell this story over and over again throughout my life.
Guess what happened?
I had a series of boyfriends who didn’t have any money and who relied on me to support us or wanted me to take care of them. The more I did this and bought into the story that I was going to be the bread winner and have to take care of them, the worse it got.
This situation felt really crappy and so wasn’t part of my Kick-Ass Life, but I didn’t know what to do about it. I was so caught up in my story I thought that this was just the way my relationships were supposed to be.
Luckily, I had a great coach who helped me see this story and change it.
I set myself free to re-write my story to say “I am surrounded by prosperity and helpful supportive men”. Now I’m in a deeply satisfying relationship with someone who is good with money, takes good care of himself, and loves to take care of me when I let him.
Here’s another example from a client -
A few days ago I had an inspiring conversation with Leah. She listened quietly while I talked about my life. After a bit she pointed out a comment I made as a child about overcoming hardships. She asked if I realized that this was a contract/story to overcome hardships in my life. I have continued to create them to overcome. The time I spent speaking with Leah helped to open the doors to hear those comments again. There is a profound difference in my daily activities, awareness and thinking about my life. I have overcome those hardships and do not need to create them anymore. Thank you Leah for your insight and willingness to listen through my story.
Thank you again. I am amazed at how aware I am now in regards to the thoughts that run through my mind. The level of awareness has a different meaning or understanding than before.
Bless you.
Rev. Connie Kirkpatrick
Spiritual Life Coach
Are you beginning to see how your stories effect your life?
What unsatisfying situations are you wanting to explore to identify the stories that are keeping you stuck?
If you want help identifying the stories that hold you back set up a Kick-Ass Consultation to discuss how we might work together to do this.
